Semi-Advanced Post: Attraction is Highest the First Time
Here’s one of my big new ideas, about escalation and emotions.
Once you’re good enough at this stuff that you get laid on a regular basis (say 10 new lays a year) then it becomes all about the idea of striking while the iron is hot. The reason being when you have good attraction game, you get the girl as attracted as she can be to someone in the first 10-15 minutes, you can only go two different routes:
1. You can lose attraction as no one (besides George Clooney) can sustain super high levels of emotional attraction (1 of 5 major types of attraction) that long. It’s just the nature of emotions that they ebb and flow, which is THE major reason why there will always be a minimal amount of flaking even when setting everything up the right way.
Attraction is an emotion of wanting more of a person, place or thing. Like any emotion it dims over time through the very ethereal nature of emotions as a whole.
2. The girl starts trying to play a longer term game as they see you as someone who she’s so attracted to that she needs to hold off and try to make you her boyfriend. This is why guys with better attraction game tend to get more Last Minute Resistance and Player Vibe (especially for better looking guys) because they got the girl so attracted she either went past what she was comfortable with (if she was a more prude girl) or she went so fast that she needs to now balance the scales and get the guy to invest a little or she runs the risk of being pumped and dumped.
So how does this affect your game?
Well if you’re looking for fast sex, it means you need to do a few things when you see a girl get SUPER attracted to you (Wide huge smile, lots of touching, laughing at things that are not funny in any way, admitting attraction when you use cocky humor etc..)
1. You need to escalate PHYSICALLY. All the verbal escalation stuff is great but what let’s you know if you’re going to get laid or if you’re going to have a girl who’s REALLY REALLY excited you’re texting her is the touching. You have to learn to trust the touching over EVERYTHING else. I’ve had girls tell me I wasn’t their type, I was too short, and I was too metro sexual for them while letting me grab their ass, make out with them and remove their clothes on my bed…
2. You need to shit or get off the pot logistically. A lot of guys have girls into them, are making out with them and then NEVER try to get them out of the venue where that can actually turn into sex. This applies DOUBLY for Day Game. When I realized I could invite girls from the mall to my house, I started getting 30X the same day lays I got before. If a girl won’t leave with you then she’s not sleeping with you that night and you don’t need to spend more time with her than it takes to get a phone # she’ll respond to.
3. Memorize the phrases “What are you up to Later?” and ” What do you have going on Tomorrow?”. Sometimes things are really on but there are bad logistics. I met this girl at the mall on a bench and she had to go in 10 minutes but texted me that she was sorry and invited me to a party downtown the next day where we hooked up. The attraction is the highest when you meet, so whether you meet a girl at 10PM on a Friday or Tuesday at 1 on your lunch break you should start by trying to get her to hang out later before moving on to tomor and then later if it doesn’t work out. Don’t worry about trying to preserve your value by seeming busy strike while the emotions are high.
4. Make it sexual. I’ve talked about this sooo much in the last few years but once you have attraction you need sexual attraction and they are NOT always one and the same.
So there you have it, a breakdown of what to do when you have a girl soooo into you so it doesn’t fade or flake because you waited too long.
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About john sinn Sinn is widely regarded as the second best PUA in the world. Sinn is known for his hard nosed style and take no excuses approach to teaching. He is a nondenominational teacher, which means that he subscribes to no particular method and instead blends the best of every school of seduction to create the best possible results for himself and his students. Sinn is currently running his own pick up company The Sinns Of Attraction, which offers live, phone and email training.