Developing An Internal Mute Button

This is kind of a weird concept, but it’s been working really well for me and my phone coaching students, so I wanted to share it with the blog.

It goes like this; we all have thoughts that run through our heads when we want to approach, during an approach, etc…

They’re generally not helpful thoughts either, they’re things like:

“I hope no one sees this”
“This isn’t going well”
“What am I gonna do next?”
“This girl could never like me because I’m too fat, old, ugly, etc…”

Everyone has these thoughts but the difference between guys who are good with girls and guys who aren’t is that guys that are good with girls ignore those thoughts.

Somehow some way, guys who are successful (And pick up nerds like myself who get there through state) manage to not engage in those thoughts or allow those thoughts to overtake them making their behavior wooden, stilted and awkward.

The thing that really made this idea click for me was when I started to try to turn the volume down on these thoughts. I couldn’t instantly get rid of them, but I could make them a little quieter each time I had them.

As I made them softer and softer, I started to feel better about my interactions and have better interactions more frequently.

And eventually I became able to just kinda instantly mute the thoughts as they come into my head which has made my game much better and made approaching much more fun as I can focus on the good parts instead of having to deal with bad inner dialogue.

I encourage you to try this, start by seeing if the next time you get some of this bad internal dialogue, you can close your eyes and imagine yourself muting it like on a TV ( I know even think of a mute sign coming on in the corner).

But if that doesn’t work the first time, don’t worry and instead try to turn the volume down on those thoughts, as even a little will still make a big difference.