What Emotions Do You Live In?
The emotions that we feel on a day to day basis, can be extremely addictive. In fact most Chemical dependencies are issues, not because the chemicals themselves are necessarily physically addictive but because we become addicted to the emotional states we get when we we “use”.
The interesting thing to me, is that most of us don’t pay attention to the emotions we spend most of our time in.
The majority of students I find come from a place of insecurity, anger(Towards themselves, women, society), Unfairness, Jealousy, negativity, etc.
As those of you who have read this blog over the years know, I can come from all of those places as well.
Sometimes at the same time 🙂
But one of the most important things we can do is figure out what emotional place we are spending most of our day in.
It’s really quite simple.
All it takes is a pad of paper and a week. Spend a week keeping a pad of paper with you and observing what emotions you’re feeling as close to every hour on the hour as you can without driving yourself crazy.
I did this about a year or so ago, and I realized that I spent most of my time pissed off.
Pissed off at the charlatans in this community, at the douchebags I was associating myself with, and mostly at myself for allowing all this stuff to affect me.
The result was my withdrawal from being active in the SUISC, and now I’ve never been happier.
I realized that even when I was coming from a place of anger, I was also coming from a place of humor and absurdity.
It was this epiphany that really shifted my world view. I wasn’t being negative because I was angry with Johnny Soporno showing people his cock, or David Wygant being a windbag who lies about being the inspriation for Hitch.
I was mad because the shit was absurd to me, and when I finally realized that the community itself is absurd and with it most of my pre-conceived notions about what’s important.
And Voila happiness.
Now I laugh more, worry less, and focus specifically on finding the humor in every situation.
I want to end this post by making a key distinction.
I’m not asking you to come from a place of positivity or utopia or any kind of Pollyannic construction. I can still be caustic, cold, and sometimes downright mean when the situation calls for it. But my internal process is one of absurdity and humor. Even as I’m being mean I see the humor in the situation.
That’s what you need to do, DON”T try to do a 180 turn and become someone you’re not, look at the emotions you do have and find the ones that make you most happy and focus on ACTING from a place of those core emotions.
Bitches owe me some $ for this literally life-changing post.
About john sinn Sinn is widely regarded as the second best PUA in the world. Sinn is known for his hard nosed style and take no excuses approach to teaching. He is a nondenominational teacher, which means that he subscribes to no particular method and instead blends the best of every school of seduction to create the best possible results for himself and his students. Sinn is currently running his own pick up company The Sinns Of Attraction, which offers live, phone and email training.