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How to Flirt

A Guide to Flirting with Girls… (and Scoring)

Examples of How Take a “Hot” Girl Home

Let’s face it- if you want to talk to a girl, hook up with her, and get her back to your place, then you need to know how to flirt with a girl.

We’ve all been there… you start talking to a girl, it seems to be going okay, but there just doesn’t seem to be any “chemistry” and she doesn’t make it easy for, she’s not giving you any signs (she is- I’ll explain them below)  and soon you run out of steam and decide it’s probably better to end the conversation than risk the awkwardness of running out of things to say or being rejected.

If you don’t know how to talk to women n that flirtatious way, eventually you will wind up boring her and losing her interest, and she’ll wind up with some other guy who knows how to turn her on by being playful and flirty.

I speak from experience.  I’m a decent looking guy who is in good shape, makes good money, and has lots of friends… but until I learned the essential flirting skills I was always stuck in the friend zone.

If you’re shy, insecure, or just clueless about how to “spark attraction” in a woman that you’re talking to, then you’re going to enjoy this article, as I’m going to lay out an easy to “action plan.”

What is Flirting?

I think that one of the reasons so many guys struggle with the skill is because they don’t really know what it is.  Instead, they think it’s the cheesy dialogue they see on soap operas… or worse, they think flirting means that you give a woman over the top compliments.

“Complimenting” is NOT is the right way to do it.  In fact, until a woman feels attraction for you, you should probably avoid complimenting her, and instead, concentrate on an “action plan” I’m about to give you below.

So what exactly is flirting?

It is a fun, playful way of communicating with a woman that lets her know you’re interested in her… without coming right out and saying it.

Instead you do things like:

  • Tease her
  • Banter with her
  • Turn your conversation with her into a sort of “game”
  • Become “partners in crime”

I’m going to talk about each of these things, and give you some examples you can use tonight.

The Art of “Teasing”

Can you flirt with this girlThe easiest way to begin flirting with a woman is to begin to playfully tease her.  The teasing should be good hearted and fun, and should not be offensive or rude.

It’s always best to tease a woman on something she says, the way she is acting, or something you notice about her.

When you learn to listen and observe a girl you begin to quickly find this you can flirt and tease her about.

Things like:

  • Being “blonde”
  • Seeming “bossy”
  • Being “gullible” or “naïve”
  • Having a “wild side”

Or you can simply challenge her.  A great way to flirt with a girl is to have a “mock” completion with her over something.  For instance, I’ve goaded smart girls into having a spelling bee with me… its just a fun, playful way to get the two of you engaged in some sort of “game.”

You can also tease a woman without ever opening your mouth.  You can tease a woman by getting in her way so she can’t walk past you.  You can swat her with a straw, tickle her, or do the old “you’ve got something on your shirt” routine.

Lines You Can Use Tonight…

When you’re first learning how to flirt with girls it’s good to have some “canned” flirting lines you can use at any given time.  Sometimes it’s hard to think of original things to say.

Here are a few lines I like to use to “tease” women quickly in the conversation.

  • If a girl says something nerdy I will say “You usually hang out at the library don’t you?”
  • If a girl spills her drink I will say “Bartender, I think you need to cut her off”
  • If a girl is acting a little spoiled say “Looks like someone put their cranky pants on this morning

These are just a few examples of lines that you can say.  I actually put together a “cheat sheet” of good teasing and banter lines that you can use in various situations.

You can download a free copy of The Teasing and Banter Cheat Sheet.

Body Language 

Flirting and teasing are the sameOne of the most important things to remember is that what you’re body is saying is almost important as what is coming out of your mouth.

A lot of times, guys are too nervous talking to women, and there body language displays bad posture, nervous ticks, unconfident eye contact… all of these things can undermine what you are saying to a girl, and make her think you’re really not as “cool” as you’re pretending to sound.

This is why it is important to display sexy body language along with the words that come out of your mouth and the teasing and banter lines.

Examples of Body Language:

  • Slowly smiling at her (not an obnoxious or nervous grin)
  • Briefly touching her as you talk
  • Appearing relaxed and laid back
  • Holding eye contact

If you combine these things with good verbal flirting skills then you’ll do a great job of getting the girl to give you the signals that she likes you.

Signs to Look For

It can be a major main to be left wondering if a girl is flirting with you or just being nice… so below are some of the best indicators.

If I’m talking to a girl and start to sense a “vibe” here is a video explaining what I look for to determine if she is feeling it to.

The Art of Talking to Women

There is much more to the art of flirting than I can explain in this article, so I’ve created a free 27 page manuscript called “Make Small Talk Sexy” where I explain exactly how to take a conversation to fun, playful and flirtatious level.

In this manuscript you will learn:

==> A concept I call “finding the game” that will allow you turn ANY conversation “sexy” within seconds… I’ll give you four examples you can use tonight to get girls hot and wild over you…  (these work even if you’re not naturally outgoing)

==> A simple technique that creates “conversation momentum” which keeps the talk flowing, makes her laugh, and builds sexual tension… all while she slowly becomes addicted to being around you… (I’m already getting emails from guys who have used this technique telling me it changed their game overnight…)

==> One simple and discreet phrase to “inject” into your conversation with a woman- that instantly catapults you out of the friend zone…and gets her thinking of you as a potential lover… (trust me, once you put this in her brain…. She literally can’t help but picture having sex with you)

Grab your free copy of Small Talk Tactics: Make Small Talk Sexy now.

If you want to see a sample of some of things you’re going to learn read though “How to Talk to Women:Make Small Talk Sexy“.  If will teach you everything you need to know.

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The one thing I want to leave you with is: No matter how intimidated you are by the thought of learning this skill… It really is not as hard as you think to attract the really hot girls.

This manuscript will show you exactly how to flirt in a way that gets a woman’s attention glued on you, so that you can easily kiss her, ask her out on a date, or get her back to your bedroom.

(updated 11/20/2011)

One of the obstacles you might be facing when learning this is trying to balance “the chase” with showing too much interest.  It is a balance between expressing interest in a woman, but also leaving her wanting more.  A lot of guys think that overly complimenting is flirting. But that is not how you flirt with a girl.  Instead, you show a little interest, but then send some mixed signals.

There is something called “cat and the string” theory that states that women will chase something until they have it.  When you’re being playful with a girl you always want to be a little out of reach.

Another important thing to remember when interacting with a woman is to add some sexuality to your flirting. Don’t be afraid to express a more physical interest.  Too many guys are afraid of letting a girl know they like her on a sexual level.  But that is important.  If not, you can come across as a “Friendly” guy. And not the type of guy a girl wants to spend the night with.

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