The Success Principles: Take 100% Responsibility For Your Life


Here at TSB Magazine we talk a lot about the need to create a successful well-balanced life to attract the kind of women you want to spend time with.

We published an article a few months back called Build It and They Will Come. The article talks about making your first priority creating your dream life… and states the women will naturally flow to you.

I think that if you’re having trouble with specific areas relating to your dealing with women; you should explore all the information available to improving upon that particular area. For example, if you have severe approach anxiety- study up on ways to conquer it… then go out and practice.

But for a more long term plan for attracting the kind of women you desire into your life; you are going to have to concentrate on building the kind of life that will naturally attract these women. And more importantly, the kind of life that you will enjoy living.

I’ve decided to start a new series here at TSB Magazine called The Success Principles. This new series will be based on Jack Canfield’s amazing program of the same name. I’ve listened to this program many times… and have already begun to see huge changes in my life, and have taken great strides towards accomplishing my goals.

Some of the successes I’ve seen since following these principles:

  • I’ve sold a portion of my former business to go full time with my dream job of running an online men’s magazine.
  • I’m in a relationship with a girl I’m crazy about.
  • I put on my first retreat weekend seminar… and it was a huge success!
  • I’ve traveled to Brazil, Colombia, and multiple times to the Dominican Republic.
  • My partner and I secured a weekly radio show

DSCF0016I highlight some of my accomplishments not to try to impress you… but to impress upon you how important and influential following these Success Principles has been in my life over the past year.

At the end of the program Jack Canfield challenges each of us to do our duty and pass along these principles in hope of educating and inspiring others to see the same success. Over the next couple months I am going to take you through each of the 64 Principles that have begun to change my life.

Success Principle #1- Take 100% Responsibility for Your Life

There is only one person who is responsible for seeing to it that you achieve each and every goal you set out for yourself. There is only one person responsible for attracting to you the woman you desire, the income you desire, and the life you you want to live.

And that person is you.

Anthony Robbins has a great quote:

The only thing keeping you from what you want… is the story you tell yourself why you can’t have it.

When you think about what you want in your life; whether it be an ideal relationship, a certain income, a better physical appearance… anything… you need to give up all your excuses, all your victim stories, all the reasons as to why you can’t and why you haven’t up until now, and all your blaming for of outside circumstances. You have to commit to giving up these excuses forever.




I wrote about the Can’t Do Mentality a few weeks back. This is the mentality where you try to find all the reasons why you can’t complete any given action.

For instance, a thought like “I can’t find a girlfriend because I have no time.”

Bullshit, if there if there is one thing we’re all on the same playing field with; its time. If a guy as busy and as much on his plate as Donald Trump can find time to date… I find it hard to believe that you can’t.

Or another person might have the thought “I was born with a slow metabolism. There is no way I can lose weight.”

Again, complete bullshit. I’ve seen far too many people shed massive amounts of weight after years of being fat… to believe that you are some unique genotype that lacks the ability to lose weight.

Yes, some people will naturally have it easier at certain things… maybe they will be born into a wealthy family, have more connections, a bigger social circle, a faster metabolism, are naturally stronger or more athletic… but if you look at yourself closely you’ll find that you have many advantages that other people lack.

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  1. Infinity

    September 2, 2008 at 11:56 pm

    This is exactly what I have been thinking about over the past few weeks!

    I am actually in total shock over what I just read. I’ll have to explain at a later note but this is an exceptional post Bobby…

  2. Sebastian

    September 3, 2008 at 12:47 am

    Awesome first post already. This is gonna be an awesome new series! After the 31-days to better-game one, TSB still r0cked but not as much. Now with this new one giving us the benefits of learning from Mr. Canfield and those key principles without having to study it deeply on our own, I’m once again gonna be super-psyched to log in here.

    Thanks for initiating this Bobby. Keep up the good work man.

  3. Bobby Rio

    September 3, 2008 at 1:03 am

    Infinity and Sebastian,

    THanks guys.. i’m real excited about this series because its something that is currently playing a huge part in my life…


  4. dude

    September 3, 2008 at 9:16 am

    thank you.. this is just what i needed today.. . i was making up the same excuses in my head. telling myself ” i have a lot going on right now, i need to focus energy on career and not women.”
    we can have it all. i’ll share one of my favorite quotes .. a very simple one. ” HAPPINESS IS MOST OFTEN THE RESULT OF HARD WORK.”

  5. Bobby Rio

    September 3, 2008 at 11:58 am


    Some people will claim luck plays a factor… and it does. BUT …you have to position yourself to be able to take advantage of an opportunity when it arises.

    And if you’re paying attention… opportunity is always arising!

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  7. Magnet

    October 8, 2008 at 5:27 pm


    Manifestation or Coincidence?

    Ok now I’ve come to believe that there are many forces of nature that most of us are not conscious of. These forces have been validated by various studies supporting subjects such as Quantum Physics, the study of the human brain/consciousness and so on. With that said I want to share with you guys something I think I may have brought into my life just by thinking and feeling it.….

    I was watching this dvd on positive thinking and it speaks on the “law of attraction” and how our thoughts matter. One of the people they interviewed was a scientist named Greg Braden who said that a monk told him that we should be very specific about what we’re choosing to have in our lives because what we’re doing is… the world of quantum possibilities, what we’re doing is isolating and locking one into place. And if we’re not specific about what that possibility is then how can the quantum field be specific about what it gives us? Another thing he said was that not only is visualizing what you want important but feeling how it feels is even more important. Our love for that possibility or fear of that possibility…either one will work.

    So I figured what the hell, I’ll give this a try and see what happens. I started to imagine what my ideal girl friend would look like. I remembered to be very specific. I imagined a beautiful brunette with wavy hair down to her mid back. She was dark but not as dark as me. Kind of like most Italian girls. Great face and great body. I started to visualize her in bed with me. Nothing sexual, just spooning. Lol. I would try and feel the feeling of her caressing my hair and kissing me. I imagined her to be very loving. And I felt the feeling of happiness that I was with her. Cuz really that’s ultimately what we all want to feel. In love.

    So I did that for like 4 nights in a row and stopped. The following week a Sicilian hottie added me as a friend on myspace. Im like okay this is probably some porn site trying to trick me cuz this girl is obviously a 10 and no 10s just befriend me for no reason. But she was a real person and it turns out she’s a friend of a friend I know from high school that I recently commented. This girl looked exactly like the girl I imagined! (it actually freaked me out. it was so dead on with i imagined) I commented her saying “thanks for the add sweetie”. And she sends me a message saying:

    HER- “no prob! U look so familiar like ive seen you somewhere before…do i look familiar to u?”
    ME- hmmm yeah i was thinking the same thing but figured you just had a familiar face. we’re gonna have to get to the bottom of this. lol have u always lived in pa?
    (I didn’t recognize her at all. Never met this girl in my life. I just lied and said I did to add something to the convo.)
    HER- pretty much, i grew up in staten island…how do u kno diano?
    ME- ahh ok, im originally from the city as well. i went to high school with him. how do YOU know D?
    HER- he was good friends with my brother so i know that whole crew lol
    (Two days pass and I notice she was signing on but did not message me back.) I message her saying….
    ME- and the convo ends…lol sorry just thought id find a little substance adios mami
    HER- no i just get caught up sometimes and dont message ppl back right away cuz i actually own a resturant..ok papi lol

    And it was over. Yeah I fucked that up big time. Anyways, even though I screwed it up, I feel as though in some way she was drawn to me because she was the closest match to what I was imagining and FEELING. I also realized that if its true that I attracted her to me, then that would mean that I did it without even knowing it. That some how I subconsciously commented my friend Diano so that my “match” would see me comment him and in turn add me as a friend. This is some crazy shit but I believe it! I don’t believe this would have happened had I not imagined myself with this girl.

    So what do you guys think? Are we all “magnets” to our desires? In your opinion, was this a manifestation or coincidence?

    • Bobby Rio

      October 9, 2008 at 3:47 pm


      Very interesting…

      I feel you on the getting anxious when she didn’t email right away… we’ve all been there!

      I’ve seen some crazy examples of manifestations over the years. Even in my own life I’ve had experiences that freaked me out a bit.

      I guess you can never be to sure whether these things are coincidence or manifestation… but this practice has been taught by hundred of gurus over the years so their must be some truth behind it.

      • Magnet

        October 13, 2008 at 2:37 pm

        yeah you can never be sure but it feels good though even when you pretend. cuz they say the mind doesn’t know the difference between it being real or not. Kinda like becoming a little delusional i guess. lol

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