3 Conversation Topics to Take Things to the Next Level: “Distilled Normalcy”
By: Rob J.
Whether you’re on a date, at the bar, or with a woman in any situation that you’d like to take to an “intimate level,” knowing how to transition into a sexual vibe is crucial. Much of the “transitioning” will be subtexual—meaning you will use your body language to transition the vibe; however, verbal cues can also help establish the vibe, as well.
While I don’t advocate following a “script” for taking things sexual, I’ve included some example quotes for successfully transitioning into a sexual vibe. The next time you’re interacting with a woman and want to take things to the next level, keep the examples below in mind.
When: Bring it up over drinks, using alcohol as the buffer.
Quote: (Raising glass to toast your date) “Did you know that if you don’t look someone in the eye when you make a toast, you’ll have bad sex for 7 years?” (Let her respond) “Well, you don’t want to have bad sex, do you? I mean, I don’t want to be with someone who’s fated to have 7 years of bad sex!”
Why this works: What’s great about the “7 years of bad sex” toast is that you imply the two of are already going to have sex, before you ever have it. By just introducing the topic of sex, you plant the idea in her head. Yet, by making it fun (with the toast), you keep yourself from coming off overly vulgar or offensive.
When: You’re talking to a girl and have rapport, using a story as the buffer.
Quote: “I had an interesting conversation yesterday…I was talking to my friend Ashley and she was telling me about this failed date she went on. She went out with this guy she really liked. The date was going great, but this guy came on really strong. It’s not that my friend didn’t like it—she was saying they were at the bar, and he was gently kissing her neck, pulling her hair, massaging her neck—but she said it was too PDA…it weirded her out!
Why this works: This strategy is old-school (dating back to The Game) and may have been invented by (gasp) Ross Jeffries. Regardless, if Ross came up with this one, I have to give gramps props. This is a money way to take things sexual. Since you indirectly bring up a sexual topic, you have license to vividly describe sex to her, without making her feel awkward or offended.
I especially like to bring up a “failed date” story because it gives you social awareness bonus points (i.e., you understand why PDA is inappropriate).
When: Right before you want to take things back to your place.
Quote: “You look fit…do you do yoga? My friend actually just got me into it, and I’m sort of on this yoga kick. What I like about yoga is it’s not just exercise for your body…it’s sort of philosophical, too—even sexual. In fact, I was just learning some tantric yoga sex stuff…really crazy! But wow…we shouldn’t talk about it here…”
Why this works: This is the classic “bait and switch” that so aptly injects sexual tension into an interaction. You bring up “tantric yoga sex stuff” and then refuse to elaborate on it. Who doesn’t want to know more about tantric yoga? I’m curious about it and I’m the one who made that quote up! To be honest, I don’t know if “tantric yoga sex stuff” even exists. However, it will definitely get a woman curious, and you can use that curiosity to take things back to you place. (Show her your “yoga mat,” a.ka. your bed…and invent your own “tantric yoga sex stuff” on the spot.
As with everything I write, pickup isn’t a grand duel with flashy game and over-the-top antics; instead, it’s what I call “distilled normalcy” (just made that term up!). By “distilled normalcy” I mean you act “like yourself” and in a normal way, but with the most potency.
You have the ability to attract gorgeous girls with your genuine personality; you just need to learn how to bring out the best pasts of that personality and understand how date tactically. Using conversation topics to subtly transition into a sexual vibe is an example of “tactical dating.” Use it wisely!