Using Conversation Hooks
Hook & Shutup
There’s an incredibly amazing little trick – The powerful “Hook And Shut-up” Seduction Technique that I use on many ocasions. And what’s so great about it is that it will literally compel a woman to talk together with you no matter how hot she thinks she is or how uninterested she may be initially.
Human beings are fundamentally curious animals. We are biologically wired to want to know. Ever get lured into one of those cheesy crime investigation shows on TV to find out who done it and how… only to curse yourself 60 minutes later that you wish you had done something more useful with your precious time?
Or ever notice how much more exciting and pleasing it is to open a gift wrapped present and seeing what’s inside rather than just having something plainly handed to you?
Curiosity is a “click whirr”, knee-jerk response that all human beings reliably and consistently respond to. And you can use curiosity to literally force women to respond enthusiastically to your advances with “click whirr” reliability. For example, when you first approach a woman you might say to her, “Excuse me… I don’t know if anyone has ever told you this before, but I just noticed something really interesting about you.” This is called the “Hook”, (notice how general the question is)!
I can guarantee that 99% of women will stop dead in their tracks and ask what it is that you noticed. All women like to feel like they’re interesting, unique and special. All you did was use her own curiosity to literally force her to stop and respond with curiosity… you have hooked her like a fish to your line and she can’t let go!
The second thing you must do, and which so many men get wrong, is that after you throw her the Hook, you must SHUT UP. Yes, shut up! Throw the hook and shut up and WAIT for her to respond.
For example: “Excuse me… I don’t know if anyone else have ever noticed this, but I noticed something really interesting about your eyes.” Then SHUT UP AND WAIT for her response.
This may seem like an obvious thing to do, but a lot of guys tend to throw their hook and immediately give the answer without giving their worm time to wiggle and squirm. They’ll ruin the power of the hook and say instead, “I noticed something really interesting about you… it’s those boots you’re wearing… I use to have a girlfriend who wore those same boots…..bla bla bla”
See, she got hooked but she was not reeled in and captured. In other words, if you start blabbing she’ll figure you out real quick and just keep walking. See our Power Rules article.
Here are some more examples of the Hook and Shut-up Technique:
Her: “So what do you do?”
You: “You’ll never believe it if I told you.” This gets her curiosity flaming! Now SHUT UP, dead silence!!
You: “Well, can you guess?” (and ofcourse with a half smile). Now you’re really digging it in like a knife!
Her: “So what do you do?”
You: “I practice hypnotism.” or “Maasage Therapy is my Passion”. Shut up, and wait for her to respond. She’ll literally be sucked in against her will.
Another variation of the Hook and Shut-up Technique is to cast your hook and then begin talking about something entirely else. This way, as you talk to her, she’ll have that curiosity gnawing at the back of her mind and she won’t leave you until it’s been scratched! Here’s an example.
Her: “So what do you do?” You: “Oh, what I do is really interesting… which reminds me of what you said earlier about liking exciting, adventuresome people and what happened to me when I was climbing Mt Fuji in Japan last year…”
You can even TWIST a hook deeper and deeper in order to touch her… except that SHE asked for it out of curiosity and you’re just showing her what SHE asked for.
For example, grab her hand without asking and say to her, “Hmmm… that’s really interesting.” That’s the first hook. Be sure to shut-up and let her respond.
Her: “What is it?”
You: “The lines in your hands… (laugh) man, I don’t believe this.” You’re twisting that hook even deeper!
You: “Well I can tell a lot of interesting things about you by looking at your palm… and I’m not sure if I should tell you this.” Twist that hook even deeper!
Her: “You read palms? What do they say?”
Proceed to trace the lines in her palms with your finger, telling her that the lines show you that deep down she’s a very sexual person… that she has a side she keeps hidden from everyone else… and that it’s your and her little secret. Obviously, you don’t need to know how to read her palm to pull this off, just make up whatever you want!
To become a truly good in leading women into conversations with you where THEY are eager to participate, write down 15 new hooks each day for 10 days straight. Eventually you’ll come to the point where you’re naturally and automatically generating powerful hooks in conversations with beautiful women.
About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences. For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.