There are times when others will treat you harshly even if
you donÂ´t deserve such treatment.
And the resulting lack of self-confidence is sometimes made
worse by the way you talk to yourself…
It does no good to think negative thoughts about yourself
and admonish yourself for “saying the wrong thing” to
someone or feel that you’ve messed up again in your
relationship with others.
This type of thinking only further reinforces the fact that
you have little or no self-confidence.
You are someone special. You are smart. You are interesting
and appealing to others.
You have a message for the world, and you need to learn to
get the message out. A few suggestions here can help you
project the image you want to world to see.
1. It’s not always about you. Maybe the person you think
slighted you has had a bad day, or heaven forbid, maybe the
person just isn’t nice.
You can turn the situation around by asking some general,
interesting questions about the person. This may bring the
person out of the bad mood and who knows, you might put a
little sunshine into someone else’s life for a change.
2. Quit taking everything so personally. Accept the fact
that some people just aren’t socially adept, and they may
have even less self-confidence than you do.
Don’t let someone else spoil your day. Don’t respond to
negative feelings and above all, don’t let yourself be
provoked. Think positive to keep your emotions in check.
Negative thoughts sap your energy and serve no purpose.
3. Do you think you’re the only one out there who gets
rejected? Think again! There are selfish people who only
think “me, me, me” to the exclusion of everyone else.
Even the most successful people are rejected
(singer/songwriter Rod Stewart was rejected several times
because his voice was “too gravelly and coarse.” He didn’t
give up and today is rich and famous.)
4. Don’t give up. The old saying, “if at first you don’t
succeed, try again” holds true for the person with no
If things don’t go your way, come up with an alternate
plan. If that’s not accepted (remember, it not about you;
it’s about an idea) keep trying.
5. Stop focusing on yourself and dwelling on your perceived
shortcomings all the time. Focus instead on your goals and
what you have to do to achieve them.
Stop talking about yourself all the time. Other people get
tired of hearing about you constantly. Concentrate on a
genuine conversation about other people and other topics.
With a little self-help, you can overcome your feelings of
inadequacy and learn how to be confident.
While you are honing your skills at becoming confident, the
image you want to project is one of a person who is in
command of self and someone worth knowing and sharing ideas
and conversations with.
And I have already given you two very powerful, practical
ways to feel super confident whenever you need to be at
your very best.
These two secrets to massive self-confidence are discussed
in great detail and come
About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences. For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.