What Not to Talk About on a Date
There are subjects you really need to avoid talking to women about .It’s really pretty common sense, but sometimes when a guy’s mouth gets going, he starts to forget that he’s talking to a woman, and he starts to go into forbidden territory with his conversation.
Let’s cover a few of the things to avoid in your conversation, whether it’s a first meeting, first date, or first pillow talk:
1) Do not talk about Star Trek, Star Wars, comic books, computer games, or anything geeky or sci-fi.
Yes, I know they’re pretty cool. (Except Episode 1, great eye-candy, but just dumb.) Yes, there’s all sorts of hidden meaning, and you really think that Captain Kirk could kick Han Solo’s ass all over the quadrant.
But she will think you’re the dorkiest dork to ever live on planet Dork if you start talking about this stuff.
Trust me. Unless SHE brings it up, leave spaceships, Death Stars, or any geeky entertainment out of the conversation. Save that for your first anniversary, or your first Trek convention together.
(And I’m not dissing my friends that like this stuff, because I do, too. You just don’t have to broadcast it right now…)
2) Do not talk about murder, famine, war, plague, tsunamis, or death in any way, shape, manner or form.
I don’t care if you’re dating Goth Girl from Hell – leave death and violence OUT of the conversation. I can think of no topic better suited to closing the doors of her bedroom than this.
All it will do is raise the Ugly emotions in her, and unless you manage this extremely well, you’re doomed.
And if this kind of talk is something that turns her on … RUN FOREST, RUN!
3) Do not talk about previous boyfriends or relationships of HERS.
Don’t do it. No matter what, you’ll stir up every emotion that’s made her unhappy for the last ten years by going there.
I made this mistake once after getting thoroughly nekkid with a cute blonde and her ex decided to call and interrupt us. My first impulse was to “talk it out” with her.
“What’s going on? What do you feel for him?”
What a bonehead. I should have just kept going and ignored his energy.
Now, previous relationships of YOURS are a different story, especially if you show that you are mature about it and have good things to say about her. But the second you turn into Bitter Boy, you’re going to turn her off faster than Oprah watching a Krispy Kremes commercial.
Show only your positive side.
4) Do not talk about politics or religion.
Just don’t do it. Boring. Possibly fatal to any chance of a relationship when you get into a heated discussion over something silly, like Global Warming.
If she tries to bait you into a discussion of your political views, deflect it gently with a courteous, “C’mon, you’re not trying to bore be this early in the relationship, are you? At least wait until you’ve bought me a nice wedding ring.”
Some women really enjoy getting into contentious discussions to A) test you, B) get the thrill of the drama, C) eliminate you as fast as they can just because they’re really bitchy.
Don’t fall for it.
5) Do not talk about possessions (your car, your great new plasma TV, whatever), or status (your powerful position, your black belt in Whoo-flung Dung).
Women don’t want to be assaulted with your accomplishments. They want to find out about it by discovery. This is ten times more interesting for them because they get to play detective.
When YOU bring up something about you it just comes across as boasting and insecurity.
When SHE brings it up, you always seem more attractive to her.
About Carlos Xuma Carlos Xuma is a dating and attraction adviser, as well as a black belt martial arts instructor and motivational life counselor. He's the author of The Dating Black Book, Secrets of the Alpha Man, the Power Social Skills program, and many others. Carlos' programs teach the essence of attraction between the sexes. His approach is called R.E.A.L. Game, which he's been teaching for the last 8 years with his programs and seminars. Carlos shows you how to use your authentic personality to attract the opposite sex, and make enhance your entire LIFESTYLE - to see and feel the Big Picture of attraction and success in social dynamics.