How to Compliment Girls

I’m going to round off the week with another post I found by Juggler over on the Charisma Arts website. Juggler, the innovator of natural game, always has something interesting to say. There is a quote in the article “Just be a guy who show’s the world approval.” that I couldn’t agree with more.

Complimenting Girls by Juggler

Conventional wisdom in the seduction community is that a woman who cannot accept a compliment has low self esteem. I think there is some truth in that but a lot of delusion as well. The big reason a woman you have just met does not accept your compliment is that to do so is to accept you as an authority in their life. It is to accept you. She is not ready to do that yet. To put her in that position is to ask her to approve of you. This is a form of neediness.

Yet simply giving a compliment is not needy. It is only needy if you are trying to buy her approval of you with your approval of her. Follow?

A typical bit of interaction may go like this:

Guy: “You have lovely hands.”

Girl: “Oh, they’re just regular hands.”

Guy looks hurt that she dismissed his compliment. He expected her to be wooed by it. Girl senses this and realizes he had an agenda that just went awry.

Compare this to being a guy who just has a positive view and is a person who likes to give people approval and who is not using it as a tool. He does not need someone to react in a specific way. He can roll with it.

Guy: “You have lovely hands.”

Girl: “Oh, they’re just regular hands.”

Guy: “Ha, ha, ha. Yeah, I can see you busting rocks with these. Ha, ha.”

Or our guy does not give them a chance to deny his compliment. He dosen’t wait for a response.

Guy: “Wow, you have lovely hands. Pass the salt and pepper please.”

Expect that most people will deny. Or yell at them for not being proud. Or whatever. Just don’t look forlorn. Don’t try to buy her approval with compliments. Just be a guy who shows the world approval.

Why give compliments at all?

Because they keep you in a mind frame of appreciation. You cannot be in your head when you are thinking about other people. They keep you positive. They lubricate many of your social interactions. People crave appreciation, even if outwardly they deny it. And approval is a gateway to creating sexual tension – more on that later.


Posted By Wayne “Juggler” Elise

Free Video Series Eliminate Your Inner "Nice Guy" & Pass Women's Secret Tests img


This free training course shows you how to finally break free of your “nice guy” habits ruining your sex life.

Fill out form below to start your FREE Course

* This is a FREE service and no credit card required.

About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences.  For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.

slot jepang akun jp daftar slot online slot gacor maxwin slot gacor 2024