Attack of the Killer Nothing
Below is another newsletter from the guys at Pickup Arts. It is all about dealing with rejection. – Bobby
Fear of Rejection is Nothing by Jay Valens
If pickup were a “natural resource” like oil or coal, we would all
be out there thinking we were depleting that resource every time we
talked to a new girl, tried a new attitude, or practiced our
In a world where everything seems to be for sale, even water, there
is a danger of thinking of everything as a limited resource. There
are even oxygen bars now! Yes, we live in a world where now air is
literally for sale.
In such a world, it becomes very easy to build up the mentality
that opportunities to meet women are limited and there is a risk of
“loss” of some kind if an interaction doesn’t pan out. Fear of
rejection or bad feelings will create a feeling that there is risk.
After all, for the inexperienced or hesitant, it does feel like
something is being risked.
The thing is, you can think of pickup like a natural resource, but
it’s a resource that’s unlimited, because when you try to meet
someone new, nothing is risked, nothing is depleted.
1. Rejection is NOTHING, it destroys nothing
2. Approaching requires NOTHING, it uses no resources and only
takes desire and action
3. Fear is a FEELING, and a feeling is not made of anything and can
Part of what hold back guys from taking action to talk to a girl is
the fear of the unknown, not knowing what to say or do next even if
taking the first step, or the second, or the third. It is
literally, the fear of NOTHING.
Maybe this is part of what holds you back.
When you’ve run into a “stall”, it’s not like there is something
tangible lost or anything tangible that will be lost no matter what
happens. Nobody has put a price tag on your feet or mouth, and you
incur no cost to try something new, say something different.
You can choose to either give up or keep moving forward. If you
mover forward, it costs you nothing and no resource is depleted.
But if you give up, you do lose something – an opportunity and
Those are not tangible things either but they are FAR FAR more
valuable resources for your personal life than just about anything
It costs you nothing to push forward. It costs you a lot to give
Did I overdo this analogy just yet?…
OK, imagine you are a steam train… HA HA… OK I will spare you any
more of these analogies, I think you understand by now.
So, just realize when you’re confronted with hesitation, there
really IS “nothing” to worry about.
No go out there and meet some girls. There’s nothing to it…
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About Jay Valens Jay Valens & Ray Devans are the masterminds behind The Art of the Pickup plus the founders of the first & largest site dedicated to pickup, attraction & dating advice for men... Their [pickup newsletter] is top-notch & their advice caters to average guys worldwide, not just the young college or club crowd. They regularly answer subscriber questions & have one of the most amazing pickup learning tools around, The Art of the Pickup: Tactics & Techniques.