Avoiding the Friend Zone
As far as I’ve come (and as many times as I’ve cum) there will always be that one girl that still fucks me up. Of course there are always a few girls that fuck us up (but all the other girls fucked me up before I learned the ways….) This girl I knew everything… I was banging chicks left and right… I was calculating moves… I was strategizing… And I wound up in “friend zone” It took 5 years to finally fuck her!!!!!!!!!!
And right after a week of mind blowing sex we went back to being friends. What fucks me up is that I thought I was doing everything right. But in reality… I was trying to hard to avoid friend zone that I wound up in it.
My problem was that I didn’t want to be one of those lame, listen to her shitty drama, waiting around with my thumb up my ass guys… so I was the complete oppossite. I was treating her like one of the guys… fucking her coworkers, acting completely uninterested in her sexually and wound up sending the wrong message. Ultimately my biggest mistake was that early on in the friendship there were opportunities to act on, and I was too proud to make the move.. Too concerned about how my ego would feel if she denied me.
It was until a drunken week on another planet that we threw our formalities aside and told each other how we felt… blah blah blah…
But by then it was too late. Don’t get me wrong. I’m over it. Its actually nice having a female friend. But the sex was SPECTACULAR and because it was so forbidden for so long.. getting a tiny taste made me crave more and more.
The moral of the story is don’t make the same mistake thats I made. I’m going to pass along some information that I apparently didn’t listen too. The short list of things to do to avoid “becoming friends” is sent to us courtesy of Stephen Nash, author of the amazing ebook “How to Get a Girlfriend.”
How to to Avoid the Friend Zone by Stephen Nash
1) Be physical. No, I don’t mean wrestle with her, but I do mean for you to TOUCH her. Perhaps you just met her, and have been talking for 5-10 minutes – touch her lightly on the hand or the shoulder. Or, you are out on your first date, offer your arm to her as you cross the street or subtly place your hand on her lower back. These are masculine moves, which signal to her that this is a romantic interaction, not a “friendly” one.
2) Be bold. Ultimately guys, she is looking to you to be both sensitive to her and to the moment. If the window opens for a kiss, be bold, and go for it. If you allow too many of these to pass, the energy changes, and you classify YOURSELF as a “friend”. Even if she rejects your advance, it is far better to go for it that not. You get nowhere fast by hoping a kiss magically happens. If she does reject you, this doesn’t mean you cannot try again later. Also, she may be saving you a lot of time by indicating that she simply is not interested in you. Better to find out now…
3) Challenge her. Too often we are so eager to please the woman that we fail to be ourselves. If we are really focused and moving our lives forward, our attractiveness to women increases tremendously. In my ebook, “How To Get A Girlfriend“, I discuss this in length. A woman, intuitively, biologically, is seeking a man who will be firm and steadfast in his resolve, and his purpose. The way we demonstrate this is in not accepting her at her fullest. So, if you feel that she is not really living up to her potential, TELL HER. If she is allowing herself to slip into mediocrity, TELL HER. Do it tenderly, and with love, but be sure to do it. Don’t accept less than her best.
There you go guys. If you can do these three things with consistency, you will never find yourself hearing those awful words again…”Let’s Just Be Friends”. There will be times when you do not get the girl, but you will always be firm in your purpose maintaining your integrity. And, you will be better prepared for the NEXT girl, just around the corner.
About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences. For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.