How to Get Better in Bed

Some people will tell you that the secret to getting better in bed is practice. Practice will get your sexual confidence up… but it won’t necessarily get you better in bed. Other people say that improving your stamina, lasting longer, or adding more foreplay will make you a better lover. All of those things definitely won’t hurt you… But they still won’t necessarily make you better in bed.

I’ve found there is only one secret for becoming a better lover. The secret is to simply pay better attention to what is working and what isn’t on a particular woman. The woman that you’re sleeping with will give you all the clues you need… you just have to be ready to read them, and be willing to make the adjustments.

The key line to this statement is that you have to pay attention to what works on each and every particular woman you’re with. The reason this is so important is because every woman enjoys being pleased differently. Sure, the basics don’t change… but some girls like it hard and fast, others slow and soft… some girls like massive foreplay… Others like their clothes ripped right off. Some girls only cum on top… other girls get off doggie.

The best lover is attentive and knows how to read the clues she’s giving you. Sometimes she’ll verbally tell you what she likes… but most of the time you’ll have to watch how her body reacts.

Recently I was quite frustrated with a girl I was dating because I couldn’t get her off with oral sex. I’ve never had that problem before. The first few times with this girl it was driving me crazy. I searched my repertoire for all the things that worked on the previous girls… and she wasn’t responding to any of them. Finally about a month in, I noticed that every time my nose would press against her clit while going down on her, she would tense up tremendously and push her pelvis out to make the pressure of my nose greater. The minute I realized what she was reacting to I went right along with it. Needless to say she went from being indifferent to oral… to begging me for it.

I’ve had many girls tell me that I’m the most amazing kisser they’ve ever experienced. This is not because I have some special technique… it’s because I adjust to their particular style of kissing. Everyone kisses differently. Sure, you can try to change her style to match yours. But if you want that first kiss to be memorable you’ll quickly note the actions of her lips and tongue, and mimic them.

This goes for all areas of foreplay and sex. If you notice that a girl gets super wet and turned on when you whisper dirty commands in her ears… keep on doing it (but don’t overdo it and let it loose its affect.)

The fact is; most girls want to tell you what is working and what isn’t. But they won’t tell you out of fear of hurting your feelings, fear of embarrassment, or fear of killing the mood. What you have to realize is that just because they’re not going to open up their mouth and say “Bobby I really like when you stick a pinky in my ass, while groping my right tit, and spreading my legs over my head…” doesn’t mean they won’t be trying to telling you in every other conceivable way.

The most common things to look out for are the intensity of the grunts and moans she is making. When she particularly fancies something you can be sure she’ll let out an extra special moan in hopes you catch on. You should also watch out for her body language. When she is enjoying something she’ll usually tense up, push herself toward you, or pull you closer. She’ll do everything possible to prevent you from suddenly stopping or changing positions.

You also want to be paying attention to the psychological factors influencing how turned on she is getting. Some girls are wildly turned on by the idea of being caught. When I sense a girl has this fetish… I’ll make sure I leave a door open, blinds up, or I begin the foreplay in any room but the bedroom.

The key is to be extremely observant and act upon the giving stimulus

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About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences.  For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.

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