Nick Savoy Interviewed by T-Nation
I always wondered why more dating coaches didn’t go after the bodybuilding market. Many of the compulsive bodybuilders are mainly lifting so much in hopes of attracting women. Why not help make their lives easier.
I’m not real familiar with T-Nation but I came across this interview with Love System’s CEO Nick Savoy.
Here is caption of the interview:
Testosterone: So hit us with some tips.
Savoy: All right. We’ve determined there are eight specific things that most women are attracted to in a guy. What we guys have to do is come up with ways of implying each of those eight attributes.
The first three relate to things you are: health, social intuition, and humor. Health is being in shape, being fit, and having an active lifestyle. When you’re around women, don’t ever talk about being sick or being tired or an injury that you had or anything like that. There’s an instinctive female emotional response to ill health: mothering. It’s definitely not a sexual type of feeling.
The second one is social intuition and is hugely important. Women don’t want to be with a guy who is socially awkward. Social intuition means recognizing all of the unwritten rules of social interactions and being able to navigate through them. It’s not etiquette; it’s not what hand to hold the knife and fork in, or any shit like that. But women are highly sensitive to social dynamics and how a man carries himself.
The third is humor. Humor predates language. It’s innate to who we are and has a huge effect on women.
Those are the three things that can be about you.
Testosterone: And the others?
Savoy: The next two are things you have: wealth and status. Now, this won’t be a mystery to most guys. Everyone knows girls like guys who are well-off and well-liked.
You could say, well, I don’t have money or social status. That’s fine. But this is where a lot of our techniques come in. It’s not about lying, but giving women the same emotions they get when they’re around a man that has wealth and status.
I’ll give you an example using status.
I’m not an A-list celebrity. Hell, I am not even a D-list celebrity. But when I walk into a bar I make sure that I give off the same vibe. I’ll confidently walk in and shake hands with the bouncer like I’ve been there a ton of times. I’ll immediately walk into the first group that I see and, using some of the techniques that we’ve developed, become the center of attention and become popular within that group.
Then I may take some people from that group into another group. I’ll approach a couple of women ” maybe not the most beautiful women in the bar but definitely attractive women” and get them to walk around the bar with me under any pretext.
At that point I’m the guy who walks in, is the center of attention, people know me, women are surrounding me and trust me, and the same reflex that a beautiful woman has when a A-list celebrity walks in the bar has now been activated for me.
You can read the full interview over at T-Nation.
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