How To Get Women Not To Flake Out On You
If you ask girls out on dates on a regular basis, chances are they usually say “yes.” However, you’ve probably also found that a lot of these dates never actually pan out.
For some reason or another, on the day of the date, you get “the phone call.” You know, the one where she tells you some lame-sounding reason why she can’t make it, and she apologizes, and you both agree to reschedule for “some other time.” This is a part of the mating ritual. When a man proposes a first date, he is almost NEVER turned down on the spot. Instead, the prescribed social norm is for the woman to “accept” his offer, even if she really has no interest in seeing him again.
Then, she’ll wait until the day of the date, call the man between five hours and 15 minutes prior to the appointed time, and cancel. A woman will never tell you, “I thought it over, and I’m really not into you, so let’s not waste our time …” Instead, she’ll give you one of the classic excuses:
“You’ll never guess who just stopped by.”
(Incredibly, a half-hour before the date, women will tell you their sister, best friend, or some long-lost acquaintance dropped in on them unexpectedly.)
She might tell you she has a “huge day” at work tomorrow, and needs to be rested, or concoct a more elaborate story about her car breaking down, her cat getting sick, etc. The end result is the same. You’re disappointed, wondering what the hell you did wrong, and you never see her again. The way to counter this is to make sure she never “disqualifies” you in the first place.
She should be looking forward to this date MORE than you are. This means you’ve got to build a deep connection with her during that initial conversation, and make her feel INVESTED in the connection so that she wants to see it pay off. Put it this way: she should feel like this first date might be the LAST first date she’ll ever go on … because you could be the guy she’s been searching for!
So how do you make women feel this sense of “investment”?
First, the more personal/intimate information she shares with you about herself, the more “invested” she will feel in the relationship. One way to accomplish this is to help her to VISUALIZE her future, and support that vision. When she mentions what she does for a living, ask her if she finds it fulfilling. Is it a field she’s always been interested in, or is it just a temporary way to pay the bills? Where does she see herself in five years?
Is there a goal she’s working towards, or a business idea she’d love to get off the ground? If she could do anything for a living, and she had the money to pursue it, how would she spend her time?
(You can learn more about this “sneaky” maneuver here.)
Next, voice YOUR appreciation and support for that goal/idea. Tell her how you’re passionate and motivated about a goal of yours, and the success you envision for yourself five years from now. Give her the sense that you believe in her, that you’re a loyal, supportive ally, and she’s going to feel invested. Who wouldn’t want a person like that in their life, and by their side?
Also, USE QUALIFYING QUESTIONS AND STATEMENTS.
(This is huge.)
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