Online Dating Vs. Pick-up
As a healthy young man, it’s natural to want to meet, date and hook-up with lots and lots of hot young women. If you’re like most guys, I’d wager you probably spend a great deal of time thinking about and plotting how you can meet more women, date higher quality women, and be more successful with women in general…
Now, there are really just three main ways to meet chicks:
1) You can wait to get introduced to them through your social circle.
2) You can do online dating.
3) You can man up and start picking up women as you go through your daily travels.
Let me say for starters that these are all EXCELLENT methods, and that they are all extremely worthwhile. However, each of these methods has it’s particular pros and cons, and depending on your own unique situation one of these avenues may far more useful for you personally.
Meeting women through your friends or social circle for instance, is fantastic. I used to meet 90% of my ladies just through hanging out and going to house parties all through high-school and college. The only trouble is that you already have to have a great group of friends and people to party with to get much out of “social-circle game.”
So in this article I’ll focus on the other two, Online Dating and Pick-up. Which one is right for you?
Picking up women is great. Not only do you get a chance to meet and date tons of women, but it’s also one of the best possible ways to develop yourself as a man. By working your way through approach anxiety, and pushing yourself out of you comfort zone, you are developing powerful new social skills and personal characteristics that you can use to succeed, not just with women, but in every aspect of your life.
I remember when I first realized that I could just walk up to the pretty girl of my choice and in many cases leave with her phone number, I was dumbstruck. Just figuring that you’re capable of picking up chicks, is an awesome, empowering epiphany. But that aside, picking up chicks rocks because you can do it wherever you go. If you see a girl you like, you go spit some game, it’s straight forward.
(Okay, it’s straight forward IF you don’t make it into something its not and start doing some wacky, unnecessary PUA shit like doing a magic trick or palm readings or any other whack-tactics.)
Here’s the thing about Pick-up, though. In order to even be able to do it, you need to have a few things going for you. You need basic social intelligence, you need to be able to project a cool image and you need to convey confidence. And if you’ve had little experience with women, or if you have has some bad experiences with women that have left you jaded and hurt, it can be extremely difficult, if not impossible to act cool and confident approaching women.
This is why I think online dating is such a godsend…
The pros of online dating are many:
1. As we just touched on, there are a significant number of men who just plain not ready to go out and start chatting up hot women because of the crippling levels of approach anxiety they deal with, and online dating completely eliminates this problem.
It nips that bitch right in the mother fucking BUD! You cannot possibly be too scared to send an email to a girl. I don’t care who you are or what your background is, if you experience “approach anxiety” over emailing a chick you need to go ahead and slap yourself!
2. Online dating is like looking at a giant catalog of chicks, which I think is pretty damn cool. If I want to look at 22 year old redheads who listed their best physical asset as chest, all I need to do is click a couple buttons, and boom, there they are ready and waiting for me to reel them in…
3. Online dating gives you a chance to think about what you want to say to a woman, before you say it, so you don’t need to think quick on your toes to make this work. If a woman sends you an email asking you a question, you can take your time and respond to it as smoothly as possible.
4. Online dating gives you a great opportunity to look at yourself subjectively, examine how you are perceived by women, and make positive changes in how you are perceived.
5. It’s fully-automated, and can pull in “leads” 24-7, while you are busy sleeping, resting, at work, macking on other chicks, etc.
Let me be honest here, I’m kind lazy, and I like napping on the couch and loungin’… a lot. So online dating is PERFECT for me.
Here’s how I think about it: doing pick-up is like going to a job. In order to get paid or in this case get laid, you need to put in your hours on a weekly basis. This means going out to bars, clubs or wherever else you can find some girls, and you’ve got to approach them and so on and so forth. Online dating is more like owning a business where you don’t need to go in to the office unless you want to, but you still get to keep writing yourself checks! Yeah, if business is slow you might try out a new picture or fire off a couple emails, but generally speaking, there is a lot less work involved, and it can all be done from the comfort of your own home.
This all isn’t to say that online dating is perfect. There are problems with it. In fact, most guys fail miserably online. This is because most guys don’t have a clue what they are doing or how to create the right image online that will attract women and make them actively pursue you.
Also, if you are able to figure out how to be successful online, this can make you even LAZIER. Once you are good at online dating it’s very easy to rely on your computer as your only means of meeting women. So this can make you less social and keep you from ever making the necessary effort to get good at going out and picking up women in the real world.
So, which is better online dating or pickup?
Neither. They are both totally awesome. And in order to maximize your options you should definitely be doing them both.
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About Jake Vandenhoff Jake Vandenhoff is a dating coach and author specializing in self-development and online dating. He offers an array of programs to help guys succeed with women naturally, without relying on outdated PUA tactics. His Online Dating Playbook offers step-by-step instructions for meeting girls online, and connecting with them authentically. Visit www.jakevandenhoff.com to claim a free copy of Jake's Online Dating Secrets eCourse.