Go With The Flow
Sometimes, stupid rhymey sayings are actually applicable in real life:
“Righty tighty, lefty loosey”
“Beer than liquor, never sicker”
“He who smelt it, dealt it”
“Go with the flow.”
“Go with the flow,” though it seems like a throwaway saying, something you’d see on a dollar store coffee mug, it’s actually quite applicable to the concepts of confidence and inner game.
Lately, it seems every one of my friends is going through some major change in life, be it work-related, relationship-related or health-related. This probably has something to do with the grand transitional phase that is the post-college years. I’ve heard friends complain about not being able to find a job, about whether or not they should get married or run away to Hawaii, and so on. Most of these struggles/problems boil down to facing an unexpected obstacle, dealing with something one just doesn’t want to deal with.
What is it to be confident? To be confident is to feel or show confidence in oneself, to be self-assured. Facing the unfamiliar and dealing with it head-on is to be confident.
We all deal with situations we don’t want to deal with on a pretty much daily basis. Farting in a crowded elevator might not be as stressful as getting from a job, but it pretty much calls for a similar reaction: to go with the flow. What’s done is done and the best thing you can do is to face it like a man and not let it destroy you. If it’s the fart thing, just stand there and realize you’ve disgusted an elevator full of strangers, no biggie. If it’s the job, pack up your stuff and start looking for a new one. Just go with the flow, bro.
The life you lead now is probably not exactly as you imagined it’d be a few years ago, let alone a year ago. You can only expect more of this in the future. If you’re not ready to deal with life as it’s thrown at you, you’re going to be seriously disappointed. Because you can only expect an assload more of unexpected, unwanted changes down the road.
You’ve got to be able to deal with both major and minor changes along the way, to let things roll off you and move along. Say your life’s dream is to be a pro football player. You’ve got to be prepared to deal with major and minor hurdles. Have a bad game? Suck it up and do better next time. Didn’t get signed by the team of your dreams? Put on that helmet and play your best for whatever sucky team you belong to.
As a confident man, you must be prepared to deal with the unexpected. Whether it’s something as big as finding out your girlfriend is cheating or something as small as finding a hair in your Whopper, you’ve got to go with the flow and press on forward. Finding a human thumb, however, might warrant a more irrational reaction.
About John Brhel John Brhel is a freelance writer from upstate New York that enjoys picking apart life's idiosyncrasies and listening to Huey Lewis & the News.