The 6 Traits That Define A Player
I didn’t have these traits when I started but they are probably the main reason why I am able to call myself a player today. They are incredibly important and encompass the so called “big picture”. These traits are without a doubt the foundation of my success and can easily be your foundation of success as long as you can engrave them into your mind.
When I say perseverance, I’m not just referring to pushing that one girl until it turns into a lay. I’m talking about absolute perseverance when it comes to your game.
If you don’t go out and approach women on a regular basis you’re not trying. You need to be out there approaching chicks at least 20 times a night (unless it works out quicker). It doesn’t matter if the club only had 10 groups of girls in it, move on. Go somewhere else that same night and persevere there.
If you eventually do get a number, don’t just give up if things seem like they’re turning sour. Push it as much as you can and only stop when you’re just about close to looking desperate. If I would have given up on girls at the very first sign of resistance, I probably wouldn’t have banged half the chicks I did.
Resilience is key. This is one of the harder skills to develop but it’s absolutely paramount.
It refers to your ability to remain cool, calm and collected without losing your initial confidence. Playing the game is a hard thing to do and many people will try to shut you down. Being resilient is what keeps you alive in the face of adversity.
If you approached a group of chicks and the nasty ones try to talk you down, don’t lash out and don’t get depressed, it will only make things worse. Stay cool, laugh it off and move on.
If you get a cockblocker right in your face trying to bust your game , don’t lash out. Stay cool, laugh it off and move on.
If you get a dude hassling you, telling you these girls are his WOMEN, don’t lash out and don’t get depressed. If you can out-alpha him, then do it, if you can’t, don’t lash out, it will only get you in trouble. Move on to other chicks (it may seem weak but it isn’t) because it’s much easier to score some other chick that to fight over the same one with Mr. RoidRage.
Being able to adapt to any situation is what keeps your game fresh. You should be able to quickly judge the scenario you find yourself in and adapt accordingly. May it be a dude failing with a chick and quickly jumping in there to profit at his expense; the fact that you know exactly what to say when the chick you were on a date with saw you chatting up another chick; or just doing something else when a date flakes on you.
Also, your ability to adapt should not stop at the scenarios you find yourself in. If you’re a 35 year old dude that’s not texting right now, because you think that calling is the only way to get a girl to see you again, you’re seriously losing out. Being able to adapt to social norm changes is absolutely paramount if you want to be a successful player.
Getting good at something is the only way you will ever get “something” to work. For example, if you constantly go out to clubs but are not there yet in terms of success it doesn’t mean that night game isn’t for you, it just means that you need to get better at it.
Don’t switch to day game just because you think it might work better for you, it won’t. You need to first be good at something, so good until you get bored of it and then…move on to something else.
Keep thing simple and don’t overcomplicated your life. The more you do one thing, the better you will get at it. Just make sure you don’t use the same lines over and over again, fresh material is always better material.
This really is a no-brainer but just in case you aren’t doing it already, I’m going to reiterate its importance. If you aren’t learning from your mistakes, you’re failing at life. It doesn’t matter what it is you’re making mistakes in/with, if you’re not learning from them you’re doing it wrong.
This was the hardest one for me. I was never patient and am still struggling with it. I’m the kind of guy that wants thing to happen NOW. It doesn’t matter what it is, if I want it, I want it NOW! Unfortunately, that’s hardly the case, especially when it comes to getting good with women.
Without practice the chances of you scoring on a regular basis are pretty slim. Don’t expect to go out there and hook up within the hour. Heck, don’t even expect to hook up this week. Build yourself up to being patient and when it happens sooner (which it will), success will taste much better.
Waiting for something to happen when you’re anxiously expecting it can become frustrating. A frustrated dude spitting frustrated game is not fun for anyone.
This is the sort of mentality I discuss on my blog and in the free eBook I give out. If you want to increase your success with women visit http://ThePlayerGuide.com – a place where the “dating” mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct (and fruitful) methods of meeting and seducing women.
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About Alex Matlock Alex Matlock is an expert in dating and woman psychology. Apart from working on his PHD in Social Psychology and writing for TSBmag he also owns ThePlayerGuide - a place where the "dating" mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct (and fruitful) methods of meeting and seducing women.