Must-Read: Do Foreplay Right
Sex is not just the actual act of sexual intercourse, when you put your thingy into her thingy. To think that is to be an immature person that shouldn’t even be having sex really. Instead, sex is the entire act, from that first piece of clothing being removed to the collapse afterwards. Which is why it’s so important that you have to be aware when you’re going through the foreplay. And which is why you need to know how to do it right, or else realize you’re doing it wrong.
And so today we’re heading over to Men’s Health where they have a list of five mistakes that a lot of us guys make when we’re getting our foreplay on. Among the terrible mistakes that they’re trying to steer us from are things like this:
2. Talking Too Much
Yes, foreplay is as verbal as it is physical, but it’s possible to go overboard with the sexy talk—or, worse, the non-sexy stuff. Be especially careful if you’re dropping new weird pet names or attempting dirty talk, says sex expert April Masini of AskApril.com. “Weird, clichéd phrases can cause the mood to die quickly,” she says. As a general rule, keep dirty talk simple and personal: Pick a body part and tell her how sexy you think it is, or describe a fantasy you have involving her.
And please, keep mundane conversations—like how busy you are at work—out of the bedroom. “Recent research indicates arousal often has more to do with avoiding life’s turn-offs than with how well you can turn someone on,” Fuller says. “Talking dirty or communicating your desires is awesome, but the last thing anyone wants to do is discuss chores, dinner, or—God forbid—finances.”
Head on over to the link above to check out the rest of the advice that you’re given in order to make sure you don’t mess us in the bedroom. And then get to foreplaying!
About Rick Mosely Rick is the editor for TSB magazine.