Must-Read: These Problems With Ruin Your Relationship
Are you in a relationship? Well, good luck with that! If you’ve lived long enough out here, you know that the odds are stacked against it working out. And why? Because there’s a lot of issues that we all have. It makes sense to keep track to make sure that it’s going well.
And so today we’re heading on over to Men’s Health where they have a list of five ways that your relationship may be doomed. Among the five pieces of advice they have is this thing:
Her Ex Is a Borderline Stalker
THREAT LEVEL: 5 (out of 10)
Is this chump really such a big deal? Exes usually lurk on social media because they can’t do it in person, says Brandy Engler, Ph.D., a sex therapist and the author of The Men on My Couch. So don’t go postal over a post. “It may have to do with simply fostering a friendship—which is often all that’s left,” she says.
If she’s truly moved on, she’ll be allergic to nostalgia, Engler says. Look for signs she’s dwelling on the past—texting him, meeting him for coffee, accepting his calls. If they turn up, break away.
Just bite your tongue—for now. You may feel tempted to call her out or confront the guy, but opt for a quieter power move: Fill her calendar with adventures. Relationships thrive on novelty, Engler says, and planning activities provides you with a strategic advantage. “The more things you give her to look forward to,” Engler says, “the less likely she’ll be to romanticize the past.”
Going all Alec Baldwin on her. There’s a fine line between direct and accusatory. Cross it, and you’ll only appear insecure and threatened, says Engler. That’s how exes win.
So head on over to the link in order to check out the rest of the tips. And then run your own relationship through this group of tests.
About Rick Mosely Rick is the editor for TSB magazine.