3 Steps To Getting Over A Girl
Getting over a girl can be tough.
Whether you’re just getting over a bad crush, a case of one-itis, or a short or long-term relationship, if you were invested, and she dropped you hard, it’s going to hurt.
And of course, the ladder is exponentially more painful than the former.
If you’re reading this, chances are your ego is screaming out in discomfort and dissatisfaction right now.
You might even be totally freaking out. Maybe you’re thinking about calling or texting her a million times in a row or thinking up excuses to see her. And that’s a really natural response to rejection. We’ve all been there; we’ve all lost our cool over a girl at some point.
But you need to get your head on straight and start thinking clearly. Stop seeing this as a tragedy and start seeing it as an opportunity and a chance for growth.
When you break a bone (insert dick joke here), it actually becomes stronger once it’s healed. The same is true for the soul, sir.
This is the beginning of the next chapter in your life, but before that, we need to get you back to your rough and tumble self. So to help, here are 3 easy steps to getting over that last girl and getting you back in the sack with a new one.
Read this very carefully, because it’s the all important, crucial first step to your recovery:
As far as you’re concerned, this girl doesn’t exist anymore.
Yeah, it hurts right now, and it’s probably going to be torture for the first few weeks, but the longer you wait to do this, the longer you prolong your pain and keep yourself in a state of arrested development; unable to move on emotionally and get in the right head space to get with new girls.
Look at it this way; would you rather take one bullet to the head or fifteen to the chest?
“But what if we get back together?”
Yeah, that could happen. But guess what? It won’t be the same.
The only way she’ll ever take you back is when she’s sees how confident and over her you are.
“Over her”, is the key part of the statement. You have to get over her for her to take you back, but if you’re over her, you won’t want her back. See the problem?
It’s a paradox. In the best case scenario, she takes you back and you want nothing to do with her anymore.
That relationship is dead, dude. Flip your collar up and move on with your life.
Alright, now on to the good stuff. Seriously.
These are all the things you now have money and time for.
And you should absolutely do all of them. They will make you feel infinitely better.
Updating and improving your appearance is a really quick and easy fix. Of course, everybody knows the mantra, “look good, feel good” and that will be a great boost to your ego. However, getting into fashion will also create something of a hobby to take your mind off of things.
Combine your outer appearance with all that other stuff, like good exercise, reigniting your social life and especially, becoming reinvigorated with your life goals, and you’ll feel as good on the inside as you look on the outside in no time.
Here’s the hard truth about everything we’ve covered here. Once you start putting it all into play, especially while avoiding being a depressed, sad, mope, you’ll start becoming irresistible to new girls and probably also your ex.
There’s no better revenge than success.
Just by merit of the fact that you’re here on TSB, you’ve taken your first steps in tuning up your game.
There are many, many, great tips on this website for sprucing up your game and getting you back in the saddle, meeting new girls and having great nights.
But this is important;
Yes, reading and learning about game is a great way to take your mind off things and to start repairing your damaged ego. Absorb as much as you can.
That being said, not only will you probably need to practice a lot of the techniques you read about until you become comfortable with them and they feel like second nature, but if all you do is stay cooped up, not meeting new girls, the sting of that break up is going to worm its way back into your brain.
So what if you’re just so rusty that you’ve lost any game you’ve ever had?
The best way to shake off the cobwebs is to just go back to basics;
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About David Maitland David Maitland is a writer living in Vancouver, Canada.