The Best Conversation Topics To Quickly Escalate Sexual Tension
Escalating sexual tension should be your first priority when talking to a girl that you’re interested in.
Seems obvious, but it’s something I see guys missing the mark on time and time again.
And it’s a big issue, because if you’re not getting her to see you in a sexual light, it’s countdown until she loses interest. In short, if you’re not escalating, things are winding down.
Talking about your career ambitions, travel aspirations or whatever are really only good for about the first two minutes. Tops.
So what are some good transitions to go from normal flirting conversation to something more sexual?
I have tattoos and I also think girls with tattoos are sexy, so this one usually works pretty easily for me, because it comes up naturally in conversation.
That being said you can also use this trick if you or the girl you’re chatting up have piercings, perhaps in places other than your ears.
Point out her tattoo, and ask her about it. You’ll undoubtedly get a story, and hopefully encourage her to a show a little more skin (getting her to comfortably open up to you is a good thing), and that’s usually a natural invite for you to touch her.
I.e. if she’s showing you something on her arm, you can take her by the wrist and examine it.
Of course, use good taste and social graces here. Skin on skin is the objective, but don’t be an overly aggressive creep.
Usually this whole process follows the pattern of ‘skin reveal, skin touch’ and creating that kinetic energy will almost escalate things for you, but also while moving the topic of conversation on to “your bodies”.
If you’re at a club, bar or party, you’re perfectly queued up to start talking about other wild nights.
You can get a little playful with her here and see who has the more wild story.
Ultimately though, you want to get her talking about times she’s gotten sexually wild. It doesn’t have to be anything too crazy, but skinny-dipping stories, the time she did body shots or made out with her girlfriend will move you in the right direction.
Once you start to get some of those kinds of wild stories out of her, you can escalate further.
Start to swap sex stories. The wildest place you’ve ever had sex, that time somebody (almost) walked in on you, how bad your first time was etc.
The logic behind this one is simple; you’re putting sex on her mind.
Another way to branch off of her wild stories is start to playfully question her a little bit, and then see if you can create some kind of sexual fantasy between the two of you.
It doesn’t really matter what she answers, and it doesn’t really matter if you have or haven’t had one either. Whatever she answers, you playfully reply with;
Then shake hands on it like it’s an actual pact. Then, start working out the fantasy. Who should we ask to join us? Should it be one of your friends? Should we try to pick up a random? Etc.
You can use other sexual fantasies of your choosing, but I find the offer of a threesome works pretty well as a one-size-fits-all.
Now, even if she doesn’t go in on the pact, and says she would never have a threesome, it doesn’t matter, because what you’re still doing is implanting the idea of having sex with you into her mind.
You can laugh it off, “What? I thought you were a badass!”
Speaking of which…
This seems pretty tame compared to talking about threesomes, but it’s a neat little trick that legitimately encourages women to want to pounce on you.
And it’s super easy to do. Here’s all you have to say.
That’s it. You can accuse her of this based on her fashion, tattoos, wild stories, whatever, and then go on about it a little bit.
“I actually think you could kick my ass, it’s intimidating. But also pretty sexy.”
When you say that, you have to have a big smile on and obviously not look intimidated at all.
It’s a great statement because what you’re doing is letting her know that you think she’s sexy, while also telling her it’s okay to be sexual around you. You want her to be sexual around you. You like her wild side and want to see more of it.
Most girls really do want to cut loose sexually, but they’re looking for the right guy to do it on. Accusations are always perceived as “takes one to know one”, so by you deeming her a “badass”, she automatically assumes you are too, and are therefore worthy of her sexual attention.
Here is another article related to the subject: https://www.tsbmag.com/3-questions-that-turn-her-on-from-pandoras-box/
About David Maitland David Maitland is a writer living in Vancouver, Canada.