The Secret of Bad Boys
Did you ever seem to notice how often girls end up in the arms of yet another bad boy? You’re probably all too familiar with the experience…
She comes to you in the middle of the night with another text, another cry on your shoulder, and another thankful hug about how much of a nice guy you are.
No matter how many times she complains to you that she never should have slept with her ex, or that guy from the bar, the fact remains that she did it. And he wasn’t a nice guy. In fact, he was a dick, a jerk, an asshole, and a douchebag. If he was a nice guy, she would be in a relationship with him, but instead she’s on the phone, or in front of you pouring over the latest mistake in male form.
It doesn’t feel good, does it?
I don’t ever remember feeling awesome when a girl would do that to me.
It was in the summer of 2012 when a girl with long blonde hair, hazel eyes, a 34DD, standing tall at about 5’9, pulled that one on me for the last time. I was tired of being a nice guy who finished last, and I had to become the nice guy who finishes first. With women and with life. I set out to figure out the magic formula of the bad boy, and figure it out, I did.
I’m going to reveal the secret to you.
I’m going to tell you right now, that the secret of bad boys is probably not what you think. This very well-kept secret amongst bad boys (until I cracked the code) is the very reason girls lose complete control over their logical brain and endlessly chase after one bad boy after another.
Think about it, dude.
How many times have you seen that amazing girl you want to be with chase endlessly and tirelessly after just one bad boy? It goes on for months! And then once she’s finally free of him, what happens next? She finds another bad boy to chase after for another 4 to 6 months.
One guy recently on Twitter said that girls “choose bad boys”, and therefore “deserve what they get”. I’m sorry, but that’s just a Nasty Nice Guy. Instead of working on his life to make it better, he’s just complaining about it bitterly. You’re not one of those guys, who is secretly just bitter and doesn’t actually want to understand women and get better. I appreciate that about you, which is why I’m going to break this down for you.
Here is the secret of the bad boy…
Usually, nice guys who are finishing last with women, despite being totally 100% perfect for her in every other regard give so much of themselves, that it leaves her wanting less.
Think about that for a second.
Despite being 100% totally perfect for her, you’re smothering her with too much attention. She wants the attention, but she needs it dialed down, so that she can want more of it. Not want less of it.
Think of it this way, dude, it’s like a vacuum.
What happens when you introduce something to a vacuum? It gets sucked totally in! The same thing happens when you leave a girl wanting more. She chases and chases and chases, wanting you more and more with every bit that she chases you.
And as she chases you, she starts to wonder why she’s chasing you. She has to tell herself that she must like you, otherwise, why would she be chasing you? She’d be crazy to chase someone who isn’t right for her, right? Making sense?
So how do you leave her wanting more?
If you give up all of that time and information, then what does she have to desire?
She knows that every day in every way you’ll let her know you care. Girls want to know you care, but they’d also like the gift of wondering about you.
Even though you’re there with her all the time, giving her all the information you think she wants, where is he? Off somewhere. And she wants to know where. She wants to know why he’s there. She wants to know what he’s doing there. She wants to know if she can come with, but she’ll never go with him, because that would spoil the mystery that keeps her heart entangled with his.
You’re welcome, dude. Now go use the secret of bad boys very carefully. It’s powerful, and I don’t want anyone on Nice Guy Nation breaking any hearts. We always leave women better than we found them.
Feel free to check out the bio section to find out more about me.
About Kevin Alexander Kevin Alexander is a no-nonsense dating expert and coach based in Edmonton, Canada. He works mostly with shy, introverted nice guys who are tired of finishing last with women, and are ready to start finishing first with women. He is the founder of Nice Guy Dating, which features products, services, and a blog entailing dating details from his own life and from the lives of others. Find him at http://niceguydating.ca, email at firstname.lastname@example.org, and follow him at @niceguydating.