Screenshot-By-Screenshot Guide To Getting A Date On OkCupid
First, you need an opener that generates responses about 30 percent of the time (although factors such as your location, age, race, etc., can affect your best possible response rates for different openers).
The one I used here says: Omg we both like X, Y and Z (with each of those variables being something we have in common based on our profiles). Will you marry me?!??
After you get a response, you have to raise her buying temperature, which entails building rapport in a way that’s fun for both of you and makes her want to keep responding, so she’ll be more likely to comply later on when you’re asking for her number or a date.
In this particular example the buying temperature phase drags on for a while, but that’s alright as long as you don’t devolve into aimlessly messaging. Whether online or in person, never lose sight of where you want your interactions to go:
Ask for her number any time after you successfully raise her buying temperature (the sooner the better, because you never know when a woman might suddenly delete her profile, leaving you no way to contact her):
For the first text, avoid saying something boring such as Hey this is [your name] from OkCupid. Pick up the conversation where you left off in a way that she’ll definitely know it’s you:
You should find out her name as soon as possible (and always before asking for her number), but I forgot and didn’t ask until this point:
As you navigate through the buying temperature phase, brainstorm ways to transition into asking for the date:
From this point, all you have to do is set the location, day and time.
About Jordan Murray Jordan is a journalist who has written extensively about dating and lifestyle for multiple publications.