9 Thought Provoking Quotes About Dating
1. “As to the deceit perpetrated upon women, let it pass, for, when love is in the way, men and women as a general rule dupe each other”
Honest versus dishonest behavior is usually cut and dried in any sitcom on television, but in real life it can be hard to determine a precise set of guidelines for what qualifies as deceit. What you consider an innocuous text exchange with one of your exes, for instance, might be considered an act of infidelity by your girlfriend.
2. “If there was anything I’d learned, it’s that the man never chooses the woman. All he can do is give her an opportunity to choose him”
You can put your best self forward and do everything right, but you’ll never get the girl 100 percent of the time.
The same reason Michael Jordan didn’t make every shot he took. It doesn’t mean he wasn’t the best; sometimes certain external forces or circumstances conspire against you and there’s nothing you could have done better.
3. “I don’t need a CAR so I can date. I need a GIRL.”
-Orson Scott Card, The Lost Gate
No, you don’t have to wait until you get that promotion, that bigger apartment, expensive car or perfect body before you can start making an effort to meet women. People who always defer to the future never accomplish anything.
4. “It is better to stay single and wait for the one that makes sense than to marry someone that makes absolutely no sense. The moment you settle is when the one person that makes all the sense in the world shows up and Satan sits back and enjoys your spiritual meltdown”
-Shannon L. Alder
There’s a difference between wanting a relationship and wanting a relationship with the right person. Most people care too much about the former to the point that they’re willing to make significant compromises just so they can say they have a boyfriend/girlfriend.
Once you’re firmly ingrained in an unsatisfying relationship, you finally meet someone you’re compatible with, the person you were too afraid to hold out for because you weren’t confident he/she would ever come along.
Then what? Cheating, lying and heartbreak in a worst-case scenario.
5. “Make sure you marry someone who laughs at the same things you do”
You have to be on the same page with a woman on certain fundamental levels to make a long-term relationship work.
6. “When someone is good, but it doesn’t seem like their world will collapse if they don’t get the part, it’s more appealing. It’s like dating someone: You don’t want someone who’s too into you”
We appreciate other people more when we have to earn a spot within their good graces. We want to feel as if they chose us over all the other options available to them, as opposed to having them cling to us out of desperation/lack of any other options.
7. “For every successful actor or actress, there are countless numbers who don’t make it. The name of the game is rejection. You go to an audition and you’re told you’re too tall or you’re too Irish or your nose is not quite right. You’re rejected for your education, you’re rejected for this or that and it’s really tough”
The same concept applies to dating. Nobody is attractive to everyone, but you don’t have to be. Improving your dating life isn’t about being able to attract any woman, it’s about maximizing your attractiveness to the type of woman you want.
8. “We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love”
Nobody you meet will perfectly conform to your vision of an ideal girlfriend, so when you’re in a relationship it’s up to you to decide whether the compromises you’ll have to make (not to mention the ones she’ll have to make) are worth it.
9. “I think a nice romantic dinner should be saved for when you and the girl you’re dating or seeing have something special and it’s a more special occasion”
Great advice from Cory Matthews. Avoid dinner dates as first dates. They can be long and tedious, especially if you and your date fail to strike up a rapport. Also, if your date cancels last minute, you’re left awkwardly sitting inside a restaurant.
Try taking things you already do and using them as first dates. For example, I might invite a woman to a farmers market or bookstore I frequent, that way if she cancels I’m doing what I would have been doing anyway.
About Jordan Murray Jordan is a journalist who has written extensively about dating and lifestyle for multiple publications.