The 5 Traits Women Find Irresistible in Men
By: Adam Lyons
I know this is hard for some to believe, but women have daily sexual fantasies just like men.
But, there is one major difference between men and women and their fantasies.
For men, fantasies occur with many different women. Contrary to men, the vast majority of women’s fantasies occur with one specific guy in mind.
This is nothing new for most of us. Biologically, this makes sense. Men want to spread their seed and women want to be selective about that one guy they choose to reproduce with. Women need to be selective with who they ultimately choose or else they might end up with a poor provider for their child, or worse, no provider at all.
As a result of this, every female fantasy falls into one of three categories:
Devotion Fantasy: This is a woman falling in love with a specific man in their life. They are starting to build a strong connection with this man and they want to do everything they can to spend the rest of their life with him. This is the classic fairy tale story many women fantasize about from a young age. The Devotion Fantasy focuses on the special, chemical connection a woman shares with a specific man which she hopes will lead into a long-term relationship.
Chasing Fantasy: This fantasy takes place when a man exhibits qualities that a woman finds irresistible and as a result she has no choice but to chase him. Again, this is all biological, a woman is looking for favorable genetics to reproduce with and hence there are certain qualities men can enhance to make themselves irresistible to women. This fantasy is different from the Devotion Fantasy because with the Chasing Fantasy, she finds the one man attractive because of certain “alpha” qualities and not because she has a special connection with him. This fantasy is usually a little more sexual in nature. Later in this article, we will reveal some of these qualities to you.
Temptation Fantasy: This fantasy touches on the hidden, sexual side of most women. Almost all women have an “inner freak” which will only be unleashed if she has a high level of comfort and trust with the guy she has on her mind. This can be combined with either of the aforementioned fantasies to bring out the kinky side of a woman.
For the rest of this article, we will be touching specifically on the Chasing Fantasy, but, if you want to learn more you can click here to learn more about all of the fantasies.
Women are hardwired to be turned out by certain qualities in a man. Biologically, every woman hopes that she can pick the partner with the most advantageous genetic makeup. Here are the five most common qualities women find irresistible in men, if you exhibit some or all of these qualities then the Chasing Fantasy will likely begin to manifest itself in the woman’s head:
If you start exhibiting some or all of the aforementioned qualities then women will truly find you irresistible. If you play hard to get a bit while exhibiting these qualities it will drive most women completely crazy.
Don’t know how to play hard to get while also expressing interest? Here is one tip I have, but first, put yourself in a girl’s shoes for a minute here.
Imagine being an attractive woman and knowing for certain that almost every single guy would be willing to have sex with you if you asked them to. Now imagine you straight up tell this girl “I think you are really cool, so it would probably be best if we didn’t hooked up because I don’t want to ruin this friendship.”
What do you think that would do to her? Well it would drive her CRAZY! Every guy wants to bang her… except you??
(P.S. Yes, this line works extremely well, especially at the end of the night, I sometimes say “I think you are awesome, and I want to invite you back to my place to have a drink on my balcony but only if you promise me we won’t hook up because I think you are super cool and I don’t want to mess anything up, deal?)
(P.P.S – another line I sometimes use is I tell the girl we can’t hook up because I am on my period… It always gets a good laugh!)
That was your first tip in this section 😉 here are a few more.
Social Acceptance Tip: Let’s just say you are the least popular guy on the planet and have two friends and two people in your immediate family. It doesn’t matter. As long as you talk about your friends and family a lot, then she will never know the difference. You can insert these cues really simply in casual conversation.
See all the difference that makes? You are a man with options and a good social circle. This tells her that you must be a cool guy!
Passion Tip: For the vast majority of girls, a passionate guy is the most desirable quality in the man. (if you don’t believe me, just google it!) The best personal example I have of this is my buddy who worked for NASA. He wasn’t good looking, funny or muscular. But, he was so effing passionate about his career and NASA’s missions that every girl just loved him. He knew exactly what he wanted to be and where he wanted to go in life and he hooked up with a lot of girls for that reason.
Now, you don’t need to work for NASA to show a woman that you are passionate about life. It can be a hobby, a side job, a dream, or a project.
For a hobby example, another good friend of mine did stand-up comedy. He was terrible, but, he was passionate about what he did. As soon as girls found that out and he told them “yea, its just something I do on the side but I just think life is too short and I love making people laugh and forget about their problems even if for just 30 minutes.”
Man that line cleaned house.
Girls would ask him SO many follow-up questions.
Find something you like, a hobby, a project, a dream, ANYTHING and be ready to speak to it when conversation goes beyond the surface level stuff it will go a long way.
When you do get that opportunity to speak to your passion, be very animated and… well… passionate about whatever you feel your purpose is in life.
If you don’t have anything at all you are passionate about in life, then figure that sh!t out before trying to bring a woman into the picture because women want a guy with purpose… and you want to be a man with purpose, so get on it!
Interested in learning more?
Then watch the video on the link below.
And here is another article related to the subject: https://www.tsbmag.com/2018/02/14/what-do-women-look-for-in-a-man-in-2018/