How To Appear Sexually Confident
All we ever hear about is how confidence is the key to attraction.
That’s absolutely true, but exactly, what does confidence look like and more importantly, what should confidence from a man feel like for a woman?
It has to feel sexual. Women need to get a sexual vibe from you.
First, it’s important to note that while making more money, working out like crazy and just being naturally better looking, while attraction factors, truly pale in comparison to being sexually confident.
Is sexual confidence being sure of your abilities in the bedroom? Sure, to some degree. You definitely want to be able to deliver on that front, and know that you can do so.
But you can’t just walk up to a girl and say, “hi, I’m great at sex.”
She needs to be able to tell that you are, without you saying so.
Neediness and desperation, these are your enemies, and they can creep up in unexpected ways. Even bragging or showing off can be seeking validation, and women generally assume that any guy who is really trying to get some, isn’t getting any.
Fun personalities attract because people feel elevated to be around you. Any girl you can make smile feels a sense of immediate attraction for you, because positive emotions release oxytocin in her brain. If you’re really just concentrated on having a good time, it’s also the opposite of the guy clamoring for validation.
Anxiety is a killer, and so is your fear to approach, to escalate and to use R-rated language or spur the conversation into a sexual realm. Confidence is always the antithesis of fear, so sometimes the best attraction tactic of all is to just go for it.
About David Maitland David Maitland is a writer living in Vancouver, Canada.