How To Get The Hot Smart Girl
You’ve been eyeing the leggy young woman with glasses for some time now. She shows up in the same coffee shop that you go to, sometimes with friends. She spends her time pounding away at her laptop, reading a book, or rustling through papers. When her friends are there, they seem to be engaged in intense and high-minded conversation. She is cute, she is in fact sizzling hot, and you have been trying to find a way to approach her.
You have a crush on a hot smart girl and are unsure of your bearings. The first thing to get straight is your attitude. Don’t be intimidated by her smarts. Intellectual women have the same needs and desires as every other kind of woman. Their attention, however, is aroused in ways different from non-bookish women. To get it, you must show a measure of curiosity about the world. This doesn’t require too much effort. Reading about current events in a newspaper of record will give you all the material needed to start a conversation.
Indeed, cultivating skill as a conversationalist is the key to unlocking the reticent heart of an intellectual woman. Your usual banter will not work on her. Nor will silly stunts and a jocular attitude. You must have something interesting to say. It need not be complex or highfalutin, but it should show some sign that you think. Such conversation will get you a name, and depending on how well you’re able to keep up the dialogue may even get you a phone number, or at least a last name and an invitation to friend her on Facebook.
The work doesn’t stop there. You should use the time between your first chat and your first date to learn about her interests. Start with music. Many bookish women like classical music. Ask her straight out if she does, and if she answers in the affirmative plan your first date around it.
If you live in a large city, there is bound to be a performance on—especially during the fall, winter, and spring. Many concerts consist of select pieces from different composers. I would recommend taking her to one of those rather than a full-blown opera, which can last for hours and may be too heavy for a first date.
Don’t worry if you know nothing about classical music. A quick web search can remedy that.
You don’t have to change who you are or what you like to go out with an intellectual woman. All that is required is that you leave yourself open to possibilities you may have never considered before. If you get past the first date and make plans for a second, you’re in. Such women don’t waste time playing games and will not go on seeing someone they don’t care for.
As you see more of her, you will begin to learn about the subjects she’s interested in. The most important thing you can do as regards her intellectual life is to give her the space and time she needs to pursue it. I can’t stress enough the importance of this matter. If she is pursuing a PhD or writing a book or involved in some other demanding project, she will have to dedicate a tremendous amount of time and energy to it. Be patient and understanding. She is neither taking you for granted nor blowing you off. Her life is such that she must direct her focus towards the things of the mind for long stretches of time. Take heart. She will make it up to you as soon as she can.
About Christopher Reid Chris was born in Washington, D.C. and lives in Britain. He works as a blogger, essayist, and novelist. His first book, Tea with Maureen, has just been published.