3 things to know before seeking dating advice
Plenty of men take to Google to figure out whether they can actually benefit from dating advice — anything from live seminars to advice columns — or if anyone who claims to be able to make you a better dater is just a scammer.
The truth is that there are many good resources out there that can genuinely help kickstart your dating life, and there are a lot of not-so-good resources. Before deciding whether to invest money in a dating coach or how seriously you can take the dating advice you see online, there are three things to keep in mind:
1. Take action first
You wouldn’t start playing baseball before playing catch with a friend and hitting some balls in your backyard.
So many men seek dating advice before they ever attempt to make an effort to meet women. If you try, you might be surprised with the results you get, and then you’ll have a clearer picture of where you can improve.
2. A more abundant dating life won’t make you whole
If you feel insecure about your dating troubles, getting women won’t fill that void; it will only increase it. The more successes you have with women, the more women you’ll think you need to get to validate yourself.
Many guys have this idea that the efficiency with which they can get women equates to the level of “game” they have, but solid “game” means you’re able to maintain a high level of confidence and self-esteem regardless of whether you have 30 one night stands in a month or zero. When being rejected by women affects your confidence and self-esteem, you’re giving women you don’t even know a lot of power over your mental state.
3. Improvement in all areas of your life is the best dating strategy
So many guys fall into the trap of going out to the same bars week after week using the same lines on the same types of women. But you should strive for self-improvement in multiple facets of your life, such as education, work and hobbies. Improving those areas expands your social circle over time and introduces higher quality women into your life.
About Luke Harold Luke Harold is a journalist who has written for publications including the Philadelphia Inquirer and Orange County Register.