5 online dating insights from Redditors
Ever wonder how your online dating experiences stack up against your peers? Here are a few experiences, shared by users of Reddit, that contain a few notes and concerns worth thinking about:
Lazy openers can work if she likes your profile picture, but using a more creative opener can give you an edge if you don’t think your photos are a big enough differentiator. Even if you’re a good looking guy, data from the app The Grade shows that professional quality photos tend to get the most right swipes.
Remember that your photos, your bio and your opener are the three factors women use to make quick decisions about whether they’ll message you. If you send a lazy opener, like the one described above, she better be impressed by at least one of the other two elements of your profile.
Not recommended, but if you’re able to persevere through the vast amounts of rejection, you might find the one match who responds well.
As stated above, if your opening message is boring, your pics and/or bio had better impress.
On sites such as OkCupid and Plenty of Fish, you have room to improve if you’re not receiving responses to your opening messages at a rate in the 30- to 40-percent range. On apps such as Tinder and Coffee Meets Bagel, where you both have to swipe right on each other before messaging, an optimal response rate is around 50 percent.
Empathize with the fact that you’re messaging with another human who is investing time and emotion. Try to avoid messaging for the sole purpose of “practice.”
Do girls leave you confused as to whether or not they like you?
Let's face it. Girl's don't make it easy for you. She will often send mixed signals leaving you unable to tell if she is being friendly or flirty. If you read her signals wrong you risk rejection and embarrassment. Or worse, you blow it with a girl who wanted to kiss you.
Here is a simple and innocent move that will instantly tell you if you're in the friend zone, or if she's waiting for you to kiss her.
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