Your Ultimate Challenge—The Hot Big Girl
Queen Cleopatra of Egypt was not a beautiful woman. History suggests that she was short, a bit chubby, and possessed no remarkable prettiness of face or feature. She nevertheless gained a reputation as one of the most sexually beguiling women in the Mediterranean world. Everyone wanted to sleep with her. And she eventually seduced the two leading men of Rome at that time?Julius Caesar and Marc Antony?and wielded enormous influence on the affairs of its empire.
You should think of Cleopatra when you see a big girl who attracts you. Fat women are rarely categorized as hot. The latter term is reserved for women who are thin and pretty or voluptuous?big tits and plump ass?but shapely. Having a huge ass, big calves, hips, thighs, and stomach disqualifies a girl from the realm of hotness.
But you feel differently about your crush. There is something about her that draws you in. She has a style and elegance that produces an overpowering feminine aura you are helpless against. She is not ashamed of her body. Whenever you look at her ass, you see the faint outline of thong underwear. When you look at her face, you see a girl who is irrepressibly pretty. Your crush wears high quality, name-brand clothes, sports an edgy yet well-crafted hair-cut, and can work a pair of high-heel pumps with confidence and grace.
The hot big girl you have in your sights has mastered the same art of presence and presentation that made the rather homely Cleopatra so irresistible. Aware of her physical limitations, Cleopatra made a display of herself that dazzled and intrigued. It is said that she oozed sexual charisma; that she dangled herself in front of men in a way that appealed directly to their ids and crowded out their more idealized standards of beauty.
In the 21st century, more big women are starting to follow Cleopatra?s example. They are beginning to believe in their own power to be sexually charged beings.
There is a world of difference between a hot big girl and a fat, unkempt slob. The latter takes no pride in her appearance. The oppressiveness of her weight shows plainly in her dress and grooming?or lack thereof. The hot big girl is filled with life, energy, and radiance. She seduces with a large figure that is matched by a stronger than average suggestion of sex in her movements and gestures.
Your challenge, as an admirer, is to make your move without looking a fool in front of her or your friends. Let us deal with the latter first. Some may snigger and make fun of you for wanting to date a big girl. But these old prejudices are starting to die out. You may be surprised to find that most of your friends will respond to your crush quite as you did when you first saw her. If she has the qualities I described above, she will affect most guys in the same way.
The next challenge is the approach. Such women are used to being stared at. Do not become one of the legions of men and women who look at her as though she?s some kind of freak. The best way of breaking the ice is to treat her like any other woman you would chat up. Normalcy is what most big women crave. Give your crush that, and you?re on your way to becoming her next lover.
About Christopher Reid Chris was born in Washington, D.C. and lives in Britain. He works as a blogger, essayist, and novelist. His first book, Tea with Maureen, has just been published.