Choosing The Right Girl For Your Career
The idea is not as old fashion and outdated as it sounds. In fact, being with someone who can complement your strengths and talents as you rise to the top of your career is as important as ever. If you are determined to be a CEO, a politician, or a leading professional of any kind, you will need to network, to entertain, to charm, disarm, and seduce rivals and prospective allies alike. Only a woman who is able and willing to join you in this effort is worth committing to.
Romance, sex, affection, compatibility—these are of course very important in deciding whether you want to pursue a relationship with a woman. But if you know that you are destined for something great. If you have the ambition and dedication to make it to the top, you must consider these factors in a very different light. Settling is not an option for you; and you may have to make trade-offs to get the kind of woman you need by your side as you move up.
Behind every great man there is a great woman, so goes the cliché. And there is a great deal of truth behind it. One would be hard pressed to decide who had the greater political mind: Eleanor or Franklin Roosevelt. John Adams had his Abigail, whose intellect and strength of character held tremendous sway on both her husband and her son, John Quincy, who would also become president. Ronald and Nancy Reagan, Bill and Melinda Gates, Barack and Michelle Obama—all power couples who have changed and shaped the modern world.
Banish all thoughts of marriage from your head for the moment. Matrimony is a mere detail. The most important thing to focus on is whether the girl you’re with can do her part in making you into the great man you want to become.
If you think you have what it takes to join the league of extraordinary men who have made history, you had better make sure you have the right woman. Here are a few things to think about.
Many women prefer the lightness and ease of girlishness. They want to go on leading a simple life. One that includes stability and comfort, and that allows them to look pretty, have fun, and be at the center of their social circle. This is a High School state of mind that is incompatible with your plans.
You need a woman who can not only follow your way of thinking and have full confidence in your ability to rise in the world, but who also has the willingness to work, to sacrifice, and to be a source of strength and ballast when you need it. In other words, you must append yourself to a real woman, not a girl grown old.
By education I do not mean schooling. Some of the biggest dolts in the world have college degrees. Formal instruction is of no consequence. The only thing that matters is that she is informed about the world, is able to hold intelligent conversation, and understands how to entertain and charm guests.
Women who come from a certain social background (middle-class) are more likely to fit this mold. But it really doesn’t matter who her parents were, if she knows how to put and maintain the two of you at the center of the social network you need to succeed then she is the woman fit to be by your side.
This is perhaps the most important quality to look for. She must have the appetite for power. Ambition in a woman is not a bad thing. Quite the opposite: it is better if her craving for power and influence is greater than yours. It will make her a real asset. She will be willing to do what is necessary to advance your cause without prompting.
What you don’t want is a woman who thinks small, who has no ambition, who wants a quiet and peaceful life. Such a person will not change. And not only will she prove a real drag on your career, she may actually sabotage it—either intentionally or unintentionally.
About Christopher Reid Chris was born in Washington, D.C. and lives in Britain. He works as a blogger, essayist, and novelist. His first book, Tea with Maureen, has just been published.