Why Nice Guys Finish Last
Nice Guys Finish LastÂ
Have you ever heard that old familiar lament:
“Nice Guys Finish Last, Jerks Get Laid?”
At first glance, it would seem that is true.
There are a lot of Jerks out there who are able to attract tons and tons of women.
And there are a lot of Nice Guys who struggle with getting girls, and feel frustrated.
After all, who wants to have to be a jerk in order to get women?
Here’s the thing…
YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE A JERK TO GET WOMEN!
You just have to change a few things you tend to be “nice” about.
1. Social Restrictions
We tend to believe that there are “acceptable” and “unacceptable” things to do around women.
And while this is true to some extent, Nice Guys are often wrong about the limits of what is acceptable.
Like being sexual around women. Many Nice Guys believe this is “inappropriate behavior.”
But that’s wrong!
Being sexual around a woman is a very powerful way of communicating your interest in her.
Little things like flirting and joking about sex can go a long way into making you a potential lover instead of just a potential “friend.”
2. Inability To Act
Too often, “Nice Guys” wait around for the girl to make the first move to initiate romance.
This is a DEADLY mistake!
Women take their cues from the men they’re with. If you want to escalate into a physical relationship, you have to be the one to make the first move.
This can be scary. It’s possible to get rejected.
But if you don’t do it, you won’t succeed!
Actions speak louder than words, and if you allow yourself to act and go in for a kiss, or not be afraid to touch her, then you communicate all the right things…
Things like aggressiveness, confidence, and sexuality — all things women find irresistibly attractive!
3. Diarrhea Of The Mouth
Way too many Nice Guys like to talk about boringstuff.
They do nothing to captivate the girl. Their stories don’t inspire romance or attraction.
In short: Nice Guys are neutered!
The real trick with women is to be playful! Havefun with them!
Have a good time.
Show her a little bit of attention instead of focusing on yourself — but don’t take yourself
for granted either!
If you just talk, and talk, and talk without knowing what you’re saying, you’re going to bore the girl you’re with.
And girls who are bored with you will not be attracted to you.
If you look at the three points above, you can see that the Jerks who get all the women do these things.
BUT, Nice guys can do them too, and not have to act like a complete horses ass to do them!
You can still be the Nice Guy you’ve always been, but just change three simple tactics and see a
drastic improvement in your success with women.
To learn how to perfect this balance i recommend Double Your Dating.
About David DeAngelo David DeAngelo is the author of Double Your Dating, and the creator of programs like Advanced Dating Techniques. He has spent the last 15 years educating men on how to improve their dating life, self confidence, and inner game. You can read 22 of his David DeAngelo's best articles here.