How to Arrouse a Woman
How to turn a woman on
Going forward, and back, and making her want it.
Sometimes the kiss is harder to get to than others â€“ but you can still find it if you know how to act. And once youâ€™ve started arousing her, finding sexual fulfillment is simple matter of staying PLAYFUL.
Finding the Elusive Kiss
So youâ€™ve been touching your lady in a non-threatening, playful, and sexually stimulating way. Youâ€™re ready to go (natch), and she seems into you, but for whatever reason, the CHANCE never seems to come.
The kiss-me look never quite materializes, or it comes at just the wrong time (her cell phone rings, for example). Sheâ€™s shy and never gives you a good head-to-head look from which you can lean into it (and twisting around her craned neck is NOT sexy). Whatever. It happens.
What can you do? Well, one thing that works all by itself almost ALWAYS is this:
Gently but firmly take hold of her chin between your thumb and index finger. Move her head to face you. Think sex scene in a movie.
Chances are sheâ€™ll melt then and there and you wonâ€™t have to say a thing.
HOWEVER, sometimes youâ€™ll have a woman who wants to PROVE just how strong she is, or how cool she is, or sheâ€™ll just be so nervous that sheâ€™ll actually pull away slightly even though she WANTS to be kissed.
What do you do?
Be straightforward: say â€œDo you want me to kiss you?â€
If she says yes or nothing, just do it. If she says maybe, say â€œLetâ€™s find out.â€ and do it.
And if she says no â€“ unlikely given the build-up youâ€™ve gone through to get here â€“ say â€œI didnâ€™t say you could â€“ you just looked like you had something on your mind.â€ in a playful teasing tone. Donâ€™t act let down â€“ you were just PLAYING with her. Get it?
Wow, that was easy.
Be bold by not caring
You need to be BOLD here â€“ although bold isnâ€™t the right word. Bold suggests you are doing something DESPITE doubting yourself or the result. It suggests a bravery that you want to erase.
WHAT?!! I donâ€™t want you to be BRAVE?
Thatâ€™s right. I want you not to care.
Listen, OBVIOUSLY you want to score. If you didnâ€™t, you wouldnâ€™t go to the trouble of wooing this lady, or setting the right mood, or reading this book even.
But you canâ€™t let that be your OBVIOUS DIRECT goal when youâ€™re in the process.
You need to concentrate on the PROCESS, and your GOAL should be as slick as you can.
Do that, and yeah, the sex will come (woohoo!), but if all you worry about is the sex that gets telegraphed to your lady in the worst possible way.
So, again, RELAXED playfulness is the key. While you are sexually cuing her you donâ€™t want it to be overtly SEXUAL, as weâ€™ve discussed before. You want it to be FUN.
STAY PLAYFUL, donâ€™t get serious
The mistake most men make when they try to turn up the notch is they suddenly get too SERIOUS.
Think about it. Imagine yourself in a first kiss. How often are either of you smiling as you go into it in your head?
Admit it. Not much. Most likely your imagination has you both laughing, catching each othersâ€™ eye, sobering up with a soulful look, and then a lustful lip-lock.
Listen, it can work that way. Just like people can fall in love at first sight.
However, when you get SERIOUS at this crucial moment you cause her to think SERIOUSLY about it. Suddenly sheâ€™s switched into â€œIs he mate material?â€ mode and, unless youâ€™ve got a deep spiritual connection going, sheâ€™s gonna have some doubts.
You donâ€™t want doubts. You donâ€™t want all those somber questions floating around. Hell, itâ€™s just a kiss!
Stop treating it like a life-long pairing. Keep it RELAXED. Keep it PLAYFUL. Keep it FUN.
So no, donâ€™t be brave about the kiss. If it takes that much bravado, youâ€™ve already built it up too much.
Treat it like youâ€™ve been there before. Like a natural extension of the fun youâ€™re having. And not like youâ€™re entering some new chapter in a saga, but just part of the path.
Trust me, this works.
Why itâ€™s good you studied sine and cosine waves in High School
And once youâ€™ve kissed â€“ STOP. Thatâ€™s right. Go back to the fun you were having like nothing happened.
Sheâ€™ll wonder what the hellâ€™s going on.
Of course, you know youâ€™re just TEASING her. By pushing forward and then stepping back, youâ€™re increasing the sexual tension. Suddenly SHEâ€™S the one thinking about sex â€“ not in the serious Could-I-Marry-Him way, but in the Does-He-Like-Me? way.
When you fill in your next silence with another kiss, you should take it a little further. Then draw back a bit. And then take it a bit further.
See where this is going?
You want to ratchet up the sexual tension until she is WANTING to go further, faster than youâ€™re going.
Keep playful. Make her beg (not in a mean way â€“ remember, this should be FUN for BOTH of you). Before you know it, youâ€™ll both be naked and putting the lambada to shame.
If you go too fast and she is uncomfortable, back off a bit and build her up. The key is making sure she WANTS the next step before you get there.
This means taking your time. Go slow. Pay attention to all the parts of her body (the erogenous zone is anywhere on the body, as long as you take your time and stimulate it).
Surprise her now and again â€“ give her a tickle when she expects a caress. Peck her cheek and lean back when she expects a french kiss. Ever-so-slowly undress her, but when her bra is off, say â€œOh, you look coldâ€playfully and put her cardigan over her shoulders and lean back with a mischievous grin.
Youâ€™re only Man
Now this isnâ€™t as easy to practice until youâ€™re regularly getting women in your bedroom, so Iâ€™m going to give you an odd exercise here to simulate the control you need.
Remember when youâ€™ve been masturbated by an experienced woman, or imagine being masturbated by one. Many of us know this feeling, so we might as well use it.
She moves forward with your arousal â€“ but then stops or slows down. She doesnâ€™t just go with the usual linear build to a crescendo. Instead, she takes her time to go in waves, with each crest a bit higher than the last.
When she finally gets you to orgasm, chances are itâ€™ll be better than the usual.
Thatâ€™s how you want to treat her.
The ladies will thank you for taking the time to enjoy the moment, instead of simply aiming for the splat.
Enjoy this knowledge, because not only is it the key to properly arousing her, but itâ€™s the key to great sex as well. Use it wisely.
If you want to learn more about the keys to making yourself into the most incredible lover she’s ever had, then you’ll want to check out my ebook series Legendary Lover . It’s one of the original Seduction Science books designed specifically to show you what to do when you want to keep a woman you seduce.
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