8 Vital Traits Men Need to Attract Women
8 Traits Men Need to Succeed with Women
For a man, successfully meeting women is all about how you
ACT. Period. Sure, you have to look halfway decent in the way
you dress, stay groomed and not stink like the chunk of two
month old polish sausage that I just found hiding in the back of
my refrigerator the other day… but the make-or-break factor is
and always will be the WORDS that come out of your mouth,
and the ATTITUDE that underlies it.
With that in mind, here’s eight points to load into your mental
backpack when you’re getting ready to go off to battle (which is
to say, every day of your life…)
1) Remain Focused on the Game — The art of attracting women
is all about knowing how to engage them with a natural curiosity
that shows you are at least a little bit interested in *their* world
(WARNING: too much = a slick phoney, so be careful). Look for
LifeLines (anything that she’s hinting she would be open to
talking about) and stay committed to working them. Forget
about yourself. Fade out your own ego. There’ll be plenty of
time in the future to gab about your own amazing life.
Remember this: you are NEVER desperately looking for an “ear
to bend” — you are always looking to draw HER out instead.
Only those lost souls with limited social contact hungrily crave
the attention of any person they can corner into listening to their
non-stop yabbering (I’m not trying to sound cruel here, just
Tune out the surrounding world and focus in on her as if you
were the only two people in the universe. If done properly
(without any subservient whimpering), this kind of attention is
flattering to her in an almost breathtakingly way.
2) Stay Calm — Above all else, act like you’re familiar with this
whole process. Seduction always begins as a low pressure
event. Place her at ease with your laid back demeanor, and let
her slowly begin to feed off of it. Be a lighthearted flirt. Don’t be
obvious — keep your interest vague so as to give everyone an
“out” to protect all egos involved (both yours and hers). She will
appreciate your tactful approach immensely, and be impressed
with your consideration and charm.
3) Demonstrate Charisma (Likability) — Sometime during the
course of the evening, offer a single simple compliment about
something unique to her style and presentation about herself.
No canned “You have such beautiful eyes…” compliments.
Don’t go overboard or make a big deal about ANY compliments
that you pay her. Make them seem casual and unplanned (a
sudden pleasant thought that just popped into your head and
slipped out before you could stop it…), then IMMEDIATELY move
on to other topics. Trust me, she heard it.
4) Touch Her To Seduce Her — Use any excuse you can dream
up to get a hand on her. Of course I mean only in the
appropriate places… an arm, shoulder, a hair brushback.
Do not grope her like a desperate fool. Touch is extremely
important because it demonstrates a sexual, “manly” interest in
her and keeps you away from the deadly “nice-guy-friend”
category. Just make sure you always keep it classy.
5) Risk Taking Is A Turn-On — Take a chance… a bold
comment, break the speed limit, whatever… Stay unpredictable
and keep her a little off balance. Men are powerful and at ease
with themselves , right? (see item #2…)
6) Be A Man, Not A Boy — Keep your apartment styled in a
mature fashion — avoid the frat-house look even though your
football buddies will probably declare you a big puss. A few
REAL house plants (the kind you actually have to water…
yee-gads!), and dark solids everywhere. A few *paintings*
(don’t spend a fortune, just hit the flea markets) instead of the
Pam Anderson poster. Got it? Also (very important) junk the
“bunk” and get yourself a double-sized bed (because you
entertain female company from time to time, that’s why)
Time to bury the Star Wars bed sheets too. Keep a few bottles
of wine in stock and the kind of goodies hiding around the house
that a girl would like (popcorn, cheese, ice cream, etc.) for when
you want to veg out in front of the tube and get her loosened up.
7) Nurture The Trance Of Romance — Take her out to see a
mushy chick flick by surprise… make a dinner and light a silly
candle on a “spontaneous” whim (nothing is spontaneous to a
real Seducer…). Do the things that trigger those romantic
thoughts and dreams that attract women naturally by pulling up
all their fuzziest memories. You’ll score major points for
8) Project The Attitude Of The High Status Male — You must
NEVER allow yourself to act like a fawning “nice guy”… but you
always want to SEEM like one (for an in-depth examination of
this all-important topic read this free article on my site…
http://www.highstatusmale.com/article_015.htm ). Imagine you
have a harem waiting for you back home, and you’re trying to
determine if she would make a nice new addition. I’m serious.
This is the kind of unspoken “winners” attitude that you must
keep burning in the far recesses of your mind at all times when
you’re dating women.
Assume that she likes you and will respond favorably to your
charm, but never assume you have a green light to start telling
fart jokes or break into your full blown comedy club routine.
Humor is all about the CLEVER observation of the absurdities of
everyday life — not the repeating of dumb jokes you read in
Hustler or doing your lame celebrity impressions… (“Do I make
you horny baby?”) That’s why they call it a SENSE of humor…
you need to base your wit on what you *sense* to be going on
around you, which often lies beneath the obvious.
So there you have it. Try a few of these attitude adjustments for
yourself — maybe just as an experiment if you can’t face the idea
of actually changing anything permanently about yourself. Let
me know what happens.
Do girls leave you confused as to whether or not they like you?
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About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences. For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.