5 Steps to Make a Friend a Lover
How To Quickly Turn Platonic Friends into Lovers Using The New 5-Step Jealousy Technique by CR James
I’m going to get straight to the point. If you want to exit the platonic zone, you need to focus on two things.
Number one, it can be done. And number two, you must make her jealous. Making a woman jealous is an art. It is one of the quickest and easiest ways to build instant sexual value.
If you have any moral hold ups or any mental roadblocks that will prevent you from making her jealous, then continue to listen to the girl of your dreams yap about some other guy that makes her horny.
No self-respecting man should allow such emasculating events to occur, but for
some reason it happens all the time.
Making someone jealous is one of the quickest ways to establish your sexual
value. I can not stress that enough. In the platonic situation, she is use to you
showing her some level of romantic attention.
And if you don’t think she has an idea that you are interested in her, then
chances are you are wrong. Here’s the good part about this one-sided attraction.
Even if she doesn’t initially see you as a potential romantic interest, she has no
choice but to receive and experience the pleasurable feelings associated with
your attraction to her (whether it is obvious or not obvious).
So naturally when you begin to show her that you are now interested in another
girl (making her jealous), you end up cutting off her source of pleasurable
feelings. She will experience what I refer to as an “unexplainable emptiness” or
an unconscious attraction, which means she will feel drawn to you below her
natural level of awareness.
The key is to be effective at this whole process.
And this isn’t something that is slick or jazzy. You don’t have to put on a silvery
button-up shirt or practice endless comb-twirls to make this work. Her reaction is
natural. And you are simply benefiting by having an understanding of how
women respond when placed in a certain psychological environment. And it is
this specific understanding that will give you a psychological advantage.
If you succeed at this easy task, she will be drawn to you on a level that she can’t
quite explain. People watching the whole thing play out won’t know what the hell
happened. And you can just giggle to yourself and say: “An unconscious
attraction will always be more powerful than a conscious attraction.”
And it is true. It is the reason why people don’t stay on diets. Their deep down
(unconscious) desire to keep eating Twinkies is more powerful than the
(conscious) desire to eat right.
Once you succeed at making this platonic friend jealous (and you learn how in a
second) just calmly smile to yourself. Just take a deep breath and relax. Do not
jump up and down as if you hit a game-ending homerun in the bottom of the
ninth. Do not outwardly react as if you created a loophole in the universal code.
She is designed to respond romantically when in the presence of man who sends
the right signals.
It’s real simple. If you act a certain way she will desire you sexually.
If you are attracted to a female friend, then this is important to you because the
reality is this.
Females love to talk sexually about other guys to their male friends as if he is
one of their girlfriends. Not only is this a fact, it’s an indication that you have zero
sexual value in the eyes of your female friend.
Here is the deal. If you are listening or passively accepting the emasculating
(balls-removing) act of being radiated by her lusting over another guy, then things
are much worse than you think. Many times a woman will say to their male
platonic friends “I think he might be good in the sac!” with wide-eyed excitement
as if you care.
Many girl’s treat their platonic friend’s like they are girls.
I’m not sure why it works this way, but if you have no sexual value with a
particular female, you almost assume the “energy of a female” by default. If you
want this female friend, it should offend you when she yaps to you about another
Let’s talk about how to reverse this process. Chances are you are a perfectly
straight male that loves women. You just want to figure out if it possible to get
this special female attracted to you.
The truth is it is possible. In fact is happens all the time and it happens quite
naturally. It is not a strange event when a girl develops a “sudden interest” for a
male friend shortly after he has moved on with his life after years of endless
pursuing. It’s also quite common for her to even “aggressively pursue” him as
soon as he enters into a loving relationship. Now all of a sudden she wants him.
While it may be easy to label her as evil, the truth is she is simply responding in a
very predictable way as a result of being placed in a certain psychological
environment. And any rate, let’s discuss how you can purposely bring out this
“sudden interest” in a girl.
Because from this point on you are going to be prepared.
The first step is very critical. If you do it the right way, you will feel the momentum
switch back your way. In addition to that you end up initiating the process of
having her experience a loss of pleasurable feelings as you place your attention
(what she craves) in another direction.
Women will always love attention. This is going to be your first “momentum tool”.
On an execution level, here is what you do. The next time she does her sexual
yapping (or anything that reveals that you have no sexual value), just remain
calm. You don’t have to externalize your emotions. You will be more successful if
you just calmly let her speak. Let her get it out of her system. And when it feels
like it’s your turn to talk, you can calmly introduce your story.
It is a special way of making her jealous.
Make sure when you mention this other girl it flows naturally in the conversation.
You don’t want her to think (know) that you have an agenda. You can say
something like “Oh yeah, that reminds me, there’s this new girl that moved in
down the street…” and then smoothly deliver you story.
Build up the value of the girl in this story. Make her incredible. If the girl isn’t
special, than your story isn’t going to have the right affect on her. You have to let
her know that this girl is slightly better. Basically, you are going to put her in a
competition that she didn’t sign up for. And because all women want the attention
to be on them she’ll be literally forced into a competitive mind state.
It’s ok to laugh. Remember, to her you are innocently recalling a past
event/experience with another female or you are telling her about a “new girl”
that you just discovered. You are just sharing your joy. Give the friend specific
reasons why the “special girl” is better than most females (her).
Talk about her breasts, her butt, her personality, her eyes, her amazing smile,
anything. Pretend that it is your mission to get the friend to say to herself “Ok,
that’s enough! I want you to talk about me!” The good thing about this step is that
you don’t have to wonder whether it will work. I’m going to assume that you know
that this will happen eventually if you do it the right way.
Repeat Step 2. It is a must that you do this way past the point where she begins
to want you to start talking about her. You got to make her feel uncomfortable.
And you must extend this discomfort for awhile. Jealousy always involves
discomfort. If you ever been jealous over a girl, you know that it always increases
your attention (magnifies your focus) on the girl you were jealous over.
You may not realized it, but is also increased your attraction to her. Most women
are natural experts at doing this.
If your particular story allows for it, make sure there is an event where a bunch of
guys are admiring this special girl. For example: “This new girl moved in my
neighbor yesterday. She gets out of her car and three guys stopped what they
were doing and just starting staring at her with their tongues hanging out of their
mouths. It was like she was walking in slow motion…”
You want her to say to herself “She must be super hot. All the guys want her”
Also, women get in competitive mode very easily when they see a woman
sucking up all of the guys’ attention.
Make this step as believable as possible. So far you have built up the value of
this super awesome girl that all the guys want. Now you must show that this girl
is attracted to you on some level – even if it appears that you are not aware of it.
For example: “It was like she was walking in slow motion.
Then she introduced herself to me. I was a little shocked because most hot girls
are stuck up. She was very friendly. She then tells me that I reminded her of an
ex boyfriend and she starts looking at me weird. I’m not sure if that was good or
bad.” As you can see this step is all about sending the message that this girl digs
you. It is not about sending the message that you have everything figured out.
That’s it. Don’t expect her to instantly rip her clothes off and give you a blow job.
Just be confident that you sent her a set of powerful messages and leave it at
And now let’s say that these 5 Steps equal a “session”.
Your goal is to have as many sessions as possible. It doesn’t have to be all in
one day. You can spread them out over the course of a few weeks. Your goal is
to get her to look at you differently.
So all you are going to look for in the beginning is “something” that makes you go
“Aha! It’s working!”
You do not have to worry about what it is specifically. Once you see that
“something” you will know. Here is an analogy that illustrates the power of this
easy-to-do technique. It illustrates the two phases.
Imagine being in an empty white room with your female friend. The two of you
are standing up facing each other talking about whatever. Periodically, you let
her know that you are interested in her and each time she smiles and says “I’m
flattered, but no thanks”.
Time goes on and now the two of you have been in this room for about 30
straight hours! And about 20-40 times she has smiled and rejected you.
On the 31st hour 4 super hot women (feel free to think of your favorite celebrities)
walk in and start immediately kissing and grabbing all over you. They ignore your
female friend and they are very much sexually into you. It is almost as if each of
them is focused on being pleased by you in some way.
This goes on for about 5 minutes and then they leave. You are blown away and
can’t believe what just happened. Two hours later, they come back in and this
time they step it up a notch. They are literally doing everything imaginable to you.
You name it, they are doing it.
All in front of your female friend who is looking very uncomfortable as it this goes
on right in front of her face. Then they leave again. They continue this cycle 6
more times and each time they step it up a notch. So now you are in the room
with your female friend and 10 more hours have gone by and you haven’t
complimented or showed interested in her whatsoever.
Your attention is now on these amazing women and that’s all you are talking
about. In fact, the female friend is getting tired of hearing about them.
It should be easy to see that pretty soon your female friend is going to not only
miss the attention that you use to show her, but she is going to look at you a little
differently. This analogy represents the ideal impact that you want to have on
your female friend with your story.
In order to get her, she has to look at you differently. Again, this is something that
happens all of the time when guys get tired of chasing the girl or they get a
girlfriend and suddenly the female friend changes her mind.
Females change their minds all the time. They’re great at it and to be honest they
really do need our help. The entire event of converting her into a girl that sees
you as sexually valuable in this example features two phases:
The first phase is the flattery phase. You probably have already executed this.
And maybe you still are. This is the process of one-sided attraction.
The good news, is that you have already done some of the work because
“Even if she doesn’t see you initially as a potential romantic interest, she has no
choice but to receive and experience the pleasurable feelings associated with the
interest that you show her (whether it is obvious or not obvious).”
All you have to do is complete the second phase (the 5 steps) to make her
The reality is when you tell a story, or watch a movie you have no choice but to
place yourself intimately in that story. You become one of the characters. As the
movie goes on, your eyes will water. Your heart will pound. You will sweat. When
in reality the movie was not real, yet you experienced real biological and
psychological reactions as if you were living the scenes in the movie.
By the way, this is 100% fun to do.
When you tell your story she will unknowingly identify (or compete) with the
female! So obviously your jealousy-inducing story should make you appear like
the man. If you know any “other powerful signals” that women respond to, now is
the time to send them in your story.
Make sure the woman in your story is sexually admiring you and you are sexually
admiring that female. This creates a two-prong attack. And make sure she is
interested and tuned in to your story. Good luck.
One last thing. Make sure you look for that something (a change in how she sees
you) that makes you go:
“Aha! It’s working”.
This will let you know if you were successful at capturing her attention, painting
the story in her mind, making her uncomfortably jealous/competitive and showing
her that the hot girl is attracted to you in some way.
Do girls leave you confused as to whether or not they like you?
Let's face it. Girl's don't make it easy for you. She will often send mixed signals leaving you unable to tell if she is being friendly or flirty. If you read her signals wrong you risk rejection and embarrassment. Or worse, you blow it with a girl who wanted to kiss you.
Here is a simple and innocent move that will instantly tell you if you're in the friend zone, or if she's waiting for you to kiss her.
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