Getting Phone Numbers From Women
Below is a free seduction advice article from SwingCat. In this article he discusses the idea of prizability in regards to obtaining a phone number and making the call once you have it. Like always leave me a comment and let me know what you thought of the post. Check out Swingcat’s ebook Real World Seduction.
Dealing with Women and Phone Numbers
If you’ve gotta trick a woman into giving you her number, you risk her either giving you a fake or her not returning your phone calls. Either way you’re screwed.
Women don’t give me fake phone numbers and when I call a women I’ve just met they’re almost always thrilled to hear from me because…
I establish Prizability with a woman before asking for her phone number.
There are exceptions: for example, if I get a woman’s number while driving I don’t have a lot of time to establish Prizability with her.
For situations where you’ve only got a few seconds to get their number, try to do or say something to establish that you’re the Prize in the interaction.
Generally speaking, however, it’s best to spend a minimum of five to fifteen minutes establishing Prizability with a woman before going in for the phone number.
I usually get women to the point that they’re hoping I’m going to ask for their number.
Sometimes they get worried that I won’t ask for their number and get up the gall to give me their digits without me ever asking.
“How can you tell when a woman wants you to ask for her number?” you might be wondering.
You don’t need to brood and bitch and fondle your crystal ball to know when a woman wants you to ask for her number.
What you need is experience. The more experience you get, the stronger your intuition becomes.
When I know I’ve got enough Prizability with a woman I’ll say, “You seem like a cool girl. Write down your number… and maybe we’ll hang out.”
Notice, I’m not really asking for her number.
I’m, instead, giving her an opportunity to give me her number.
This gives her a glimmer of hope that I might be interested yet
maintains the meta-frame: I’m the Prize she wants to win over.
If you use this line before you’ve got genuine Prizability with a woman, it’s just a slick linguistic trick and, thus, your results will be helter-skelter at best.
There are very few external barriers that stop women from giving you their number when you’ve got sufficient Prizability and given her an opportunity to give you her number.
So, for example, if a girl is being dragged away by her friends but you’ve got Prizability and given her an opportunity to give you her number, she’ll almost always give you her digits.
Before I let you go, here’s one more tip…
I’ve heard many dating experts claim that beautiful women give their numbers out to heaps of men and, thus, according to these dating experts, when calling a woman it is imperative to state your name and the place you met her. If not, you risk awkwardness at best and the woman hanging up on you at worst.
This is only a half truth. Many a woman gives her phone number to truckloads of men.
But saying, to give you an example of what not to do, “Hello. This is Bill. You are very attractive and probably have a lot of men calling you. So to refresh your memory, I met you at the Saddle Ranch bar on Thursday the twenty-second of April at around 10:34 PM.” is like playing Russian roulette on your balls
It communicates to her that you think she’s got so many guys calling her that if you don’t explain who you are she won’t remember you.
It establishes the meta-frame that she’s the Prize you are trying to win over. Bad thing! Women feel no attraction toward men who aren’t the Prize.
When giving a woman a ring, always assume she knows who you are.
Before calling a woman I always think to myself: “Poor girl. Most likely, I’m her only friend. She’s probably been sitting by the phone all week waiting for that phone call from ME!!”
Warning: Sometimes women genuinely won’t remember you.
They might even ask your name or where you met them.
Should you tell them?
No No No!! This makes it too easy. Make ’em remember on their own. Maybe give ’em a few bread crumbs, leading them in the right direction.
Maybe bring up something from your first interaction with her: a joke of yours she laughed at, a subject you connected with her on, an interesting conversation you had with her… and so on.
Hint: It’s gotta be something that left an impression on her. That even if she’s lumbered with an IQ barely into the double digits, she couldn’t forget.
So, for example, when getting a woman’s number I’ll occasionally tell them to draw a picture of themselves so I can remember them.
Then, when I talk to them on the phone, I’ll ignore all the questions they ask me about my name and where they met me.
I might, for example, say, “I’d date You… but only if your eyelashes were a little longer on the picture you drew of yourself.”
At this point they usually start giggling and excitedly say, “I know who you are!”
I’ve used this with women whose numbers I got two or three months ago but didn’t make the effort to call them back. And using this they remembered me.
This works because if a woman doesn’t recognize You, you’re making her earn the right to remember. Instead of telling her who you are, you’re leaving her bread crumbs, forcing her to figure it out on her own.
This sets the meta-frame that you’re the Prize she wants
to win over.
Swingcat covers the idea of showing yourself to be the prize
in his great E-book Real World Seduction. If you don’t already own
it, I would check it out. For $20 you aren’t going to get a better
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