How to Develop Storytelling Skills to Attract Women
Here is an absolutely must read article by Derek V. This is something that all guys can learn from. I absolutely agree with what he says here!!
Improve Storytelling Skills by Derek Vitalio
I find most guys interesting to talk to. I can always find something I have in common with them chicks, computers, games, sci-fi, chicks, sports, chicks, politics, chicks and so on.
However, to women what most guys talk about to other guys is well
MORE BORING THAN WATCHING PAINT PEEL OFF THE WALLS!
And I think most guys, at least on some subconscious level, know this.
That’s why when you’re with a woman you don’t go on and on about guy topics, if you’re smart. Because you know you’ll BORE her.
That’s why a lot of guys on dates avoid guy talk. But at the same time, they don’t know how to speak girl talk either.
So they’re left with a void? and left racking their brains trying to think of what to say next.
They usually end up asking fill-the-void back-up questions like,So what’s your major? and What do you do? and How many brothers and sisters do you have? These are all boring questions.
I almost completely avoid cliche questions like So what do you do?until AFTER I’ve slept with a girl.
One time I tried an experiment where I asked a girl nothing but boring questions just to prove my point. After about 30 minutes into our conversation the girl asked me sarcastically, What is this 20 questions or something? Stop asking me so many things.
The million dollar question is then… HOW do you fill “the void?
Yes, that’s right? become a storyteller.
Storytelling accomplishes a number of objectives that normal guy talk and asking questions doesn’t.
1) Storytelling is ENTERTAINING.
Ever notice how as a child, you were always read STORIES? Notice now, how as an adult, you turn on the TV to watch STORIES?
Even a science show on the Discovery Channel like Myth busters is told as a story. You’re not just presented with the fact that an urban legend was busted or not? that would be too boring to watch. Instead, you’re shown HOW Jamie and Adam busted the myth or not and all the HUMAN INTERACTION between them that follows.
That’s because people naturally like stories.
People naturally like stories because stories are naturally entertaining.
2) Storytelling takes women on an emotional journey.
A good story evokes emotions.
A good story will bring a woman through a series of emotional states such as, for example, from intrigue and curiosity to surprise and ending on laughter. The series of states is not necessarily complex. The story may simply start on a point of intrigue and lead to a funny ending.
The point is, women like to feel good emotional states. Stories are like a drug for them so that they can get their emotion fix.
3) Storytelling makes women laugh.
Most women want a guy that makes them a laugh and stories are extremely effective at delivering the female smiles.
Even a story about something morbid or mundane can be modified to have a few laughing points in it? even if you have to make the funny parts up.
For example, you might have a rather serious story about how your Aunt got into a car accident and broke her leg, but you could still crack a joke about how her car was such a piece of junk in the first place that it looked better AFTER the accident.
Notice how these three objectives? 1) entertainment, 2) emotional journey, and 3) laughter? are all closely interrelated. In fact, they are all pretty much the same thing.
If you are being entertained, it is highly likely you are experiencing an emotional journey as well as laughing. If you are laughing, it is highly likely that you’re being entertained and being taken on an emotional journey.
So if you’re accomplishing one, most likely you’re accomplishing the other two as well.
Now, more importantly, WHAT should your stories be about?
MOST stories that women love to listen to involve PEOPLE INTERACTING.
In other words, relationships.
In fact, in general your story MUST include people interacting.
You see, this is where most guy stories about sports, computers, science fiction, your hobbies, politics, and so forth go terribly wrong.
It’s not that they’re bad subjects to talk about with women in and of themselves.
The problem is that when guys talk about these things, there’s NO PEOPLE IN THEM. And when there is a person, that person is not interacting with anyone else.
Look at the most popular shows on television today like “Desperate Housewives”, "Survivor”, "The Bachelor”, and “The Apprentice”.
Whether you consider yourself above watching these kinds of reality shows or not, millions and millions of people DO.
What makes these shows so wildly popular?
All of these shows are NOTHING BUT scenes PACKED with complex person-to-person interactions.
Every scene from the The Bachelor is either girl fighting girl, girl falling in love with guy, guy falling in love with girl, girl forming friendship with girl, and so on ad infinitum.
From these human interactions we LEARN about human nature. We LEARN how to better select mates ourselves. It’s a story that we know has an outcome. That’s why it’s so interesting and entertaining.
And that’s why your How I picked out what car I decided to buy, story is crap.
That’s why your How I studied really hard and got a good job,story blows.
In the first case, it would be much better how your Mom was really against your decision to buy that car and how you got into a big fight with her, and through that conflict you learned something about your relationship with your Mom that you’d never realized before? and how you were able to get past your differences with her.
Stories can be about simple, casual interactions you’ve experienced with people. If the situation was unusual, so much the better. Like the time you…
brought your girlfriend to a swinger’s club and how she reacted to it.
or how you and your friends would egg houses on Halloween and almost got caught.
or how you were at a concert and met the band.
or why your best friend just broke up with his girlfriend of five years.
Notice how all of these stories are about relationships and how the relationship CHANGED from the beginning of the story as compared to the end.
Now you know WHY to tell stories and now you know WHAT they should be about.
But the even bigger question is HOW to tell them.
Now, if you’re not a seasoned, practiced storyteller, storytelling that is entertaining can be a HARD skill to pick up. Storytelling takes a lot of PRACTICE.
In fact, it can be about as difficult as learning how to surf.
If you’re not careful, a strong wave can pick the surfboard up and slam you in the face with it.
However, I’ll share with you my one technique that makes storytelling EASY.
This technique takes all of the guesswork out of storytelling
This technique takes all of the pressure off of you.
This technique makes your storytelling FOOL-PROOF.
And that is, write out your story AHEAD OF TIME and MEMORIZE it. Practice it out loud four or five times at home and then use it out in the field with women. Tell the SAME story again, and again, and again.
The fact is, your story won’t be really smooth until you’ve used it with a girl or group of girls at least three times. It takes at least that many times to gauge how women will react to your story and what you can do to improve it.
In other words, do NOT try to make up cool stories on the fly in the middle of an interaction. Most likely, it will be lame and you’ll fall flat on your face.
It’s a myth that “naturals” make up and tell great stories on the fly.
The reality is, that “natural” has told that very same story a THOUSAND times to a THOUSAND different people. That’s why the story is so good. He has practiced it over and over again. It’s a routine.
It just sounds like he’s saying it for the very first time to YOU.
But in reality it’s been thoroughly rehearsed to DEATH.
The natural storyteller doesn’t think of it as rehearsal, but that’s what he’s doing? rehearsing, rehearsing, rehearsing? the SAME stories over and over again.
So write one or two entertaining, emotional journey, laugh-evoking stories that involve people interacting. Rehearse them to yourself until you’ve got them memorized and then use them again and again, over and over, to fill the void.
You’ll instantly separate yourself from the 99% of guys who only know how to talk about guy things or ask boring, cliche questions.
Now, are you interested in learning more about keeping up your end of the conversation? and being funny and entertaining while doing so?
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About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences. For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.