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Have you lost your Mojo?


Alpha Male Doesn’t Mean Dickhead

I hate to be so blunt about this, but I feel that a lot of men in today’s society have turned into selfish pussies. When did being Alpha Male constitute being a dick? A lot of reviews I have read for the [tag]David DeAngelo[/tag] book, “Double your Dating”, say that it’s a great book to get started, but many men seem to take the Cocky-Funny routine too far and end up looking like a dickhead.

It’s a fine balance between busting balls and being cute about it. If you are not making them laugh, there is a problem. Laughter is one of the most powerful tools in seduction and relationships. Don’t you remember Roger Rabbit? How do you think he pulled that HB Jessica? “The laugh is a powerful thing” he said. And it’s true!

Earlier I talked about “inner game” and how important it is. We’ll I want to briefly touch on it again to reiterate my point. GET YOUR SH*T TOGETHER! Get your life in order and it will all follow. I currently run two successful businesses and a third is in the works. I actually took time away from meeting women to get here because I knew it would all follow. Study successful people who you want to be like, and echo their actions.


I feel this is one of the all time killers of a Man and his goals. Many times in our lives we are doing great, possibly better than we thought. It is these times when being a man is the utmost importance. Taking it to the next level with confidence and charisma… When you feel your stomach rumbling with anxiety before you are about to do something you are uncomfortable with, go with it. This is the sign of progression!

Too many men sabotage their efforts for the fear of success. That’s right, fear of success, not failure! As with everything in life, if you are not used to it, it will seem foreign and weird and therefore you may reject it.

Do I need [tag]Seminars[/tag] and [tag]Boot camps[/tag]?

This is a question I have tackled myself for quite a while. Although I do not go to any [[[PUG]]] seminars, I have been to quite a few business and motivation ones. Seminars are good to get started, but sometimes hinder growth. If you seem to have success at the seminar and none at home then the problem lies with you. It is something that you have to figure out and conquer in your mind. Most things in life are common sense, so trust yourself and you might be surprised.

So how can I get my mojo back? Or just get one in general?

Below I have put together a list of things you can do to help grow your Mojo on a regular basis:

Smiling – Simple but so effective. If you are smiling all the time (even forced), eventually you will start to feel happy. Now don’t give that forced creepy smile either, I actually had to practice my smile in the mirror until I felt comfortable doing it. See if you don’t smile a lot, then it feels unnatural, and shows!

The Cape Walk – credit [tag]Tony Robbins[/tag] – Watch the movie superman and get to one of the parts where he is just standing there with his cape blowing in the wind (usually on the top of a building) and observe his stance. Emulate it… Walk around the room envisioning a cape on your back. Good posture transmutes into confidence.

Saying Hi – ok, now I know what you’re thinking, duh, but seriously. Make an effort to just say hi to everyone, even the guys. A good alpha male is a gentleman, a real man. When YOU bump into another male at a bar, say “my bad”, not “is there a problem”. If HE bumps into you, disarm him, if he still is being a dick I tend to look them in the eyes and stand up for myself – firm and assertive but not being a dick I say “listen, I don’t what the problem is, but why don’t we just make up and be friends” KILL THEM WITH KINDNESS
It is more glory to have them eating your bullshit then your fist!

Dressing Nice – Dress like a star and you will feel like a star. Peacock with flavor!

In closing:

If you act like the MAN, people will start thinking you’re the MAN, and then you will be the MAN!

About MikeStoute

Michael Stoute here, and at your service. I am a writer/editor/lover and a fighter. My words are weapons of wisdom so watch out, you may learn something...or better yet, maybe you can teach me something! Have a question? Please try to leave it in the comments, it will get a faster response than an email. Otherwise, Email Me

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  1. dude

    August 23, 2008 at 11:34 am

    two things in this article that really struck a chord in me are Self-sabotage & the fear of success. i wear them like a crown on my head sometimes. i understand why i am comfortable in the struggle. my friends and family are all on the same level as me and i don’t want to leave them behind. i always root for the under-dog & i am afraid of the unknown/ unfamiliar .
    i have tasted some success and i am not comfortable being in the spot-light. i don’t enjoy having strangers & aquaintances tell me how happy i must be and how much they admire & like me. sometimes i believe they think i can help them in some way & they want to be associated with me. i don’t always take the sincere compliments i receive seriously . i usually think if a girl is into me it is because she thinks i am something that i am not. i don’t trust or have faith in their assessment of me.
    i know this is not the winning attitude and maybe i should just fake it till i make it. the crazy thing is that its just in my head. a switch needs to turned-off and a positive attitude turned on. one thing i have to do is change the way i think about myself & others.
    it all goes back to my childhood. i wanted self- confident but didn’t know the proper way to develop it and my family life didn’t help at all.
    i think this article is excellent because it helped me understand more that confidence comes from within. it is when you know deep inside of you that you have the skills and ability to do a job well. if you want to be a good plumber, rock star, or basketball player it takes a certain amount of time training, learning and practicing to get to a level of success and it also helps to have a good teacher and/or mentor.
    i am confident and have skills in certain areas and a flop in others.. so to get confident in those other areas. i must spend time training,learning, and practicing and it helps that to have a good teacher . thank you TSB

  2. MikeStoute

    August 25, 2008 at 12:43 am


    We have all been there and it is good that you recognize what’s going on with you. That is the first step to moving ahead. We all still struggle with these insecurities in our lives on a daily basis. The key is to remember that we are ALL in the same boat here.

    Life really doesn’t get easier, I feel it only get harder with more and more responsibilities, but that does not mean it can’t be any fun. Just accept that you are going to have to push yourself on a daily basis and you will get stronger by the day. Growing up and being a man is a big task and well worth the rewards.

    You can do almost anything if you put your mind to it while adding a touch of desire and a jigger of passion, now that’s a successful cocktail.

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