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Attractive Body Language by Derek Vitalio

What do you say when you dont say anything?


We dance around this topic all the time, but its ready for the spotlight: body language. This is the most important thing not just when dealing with women, but with communication period.

Nothing else even comes close.

Wonder why that thick-as-a-post jock got all the women when charming funny nervous sitcom-character-in-waiting guy got nothing in high school?

Body language.

Why James Bond got his pick of the litter and the brilliant Q got more quality time with gadgets?

Body language.

Why that homely busboy at the corner Italian restaurant takes home all the gorgeous patrons and the handsome maitre-de takes home doggy bags?

Garlic. The busboy stank of it and THAT is a huge turn-on.

Just seeing if you were paying attention.

All those other things you THOUGHT did the trick were just extra fuel for the fodder. Body language is the key to EVERYTHING.

Why? Because it is the symptom that tells you everything you need to know about the INSIDE of a person.

It clues you in to the persons confidence, their openness, even their sexual skills. And if you send out the wrong signals – which most people do then youve given yourself a SERIOUS hole to dig out from.

Conversely, if your movements say the right things you are on top of a BIG mountain that youd have to work to screw up.

The unfortunate thing is you have a CHOICE about what you say, and most dont realize it. Or they choose to ignore it and remain themselves, as if we are static representations of an image that never changes.

WRONG. WRONG WRONG WRONG! If there was a hand near me, Id slap it. Good thing I type with my feet.

People are dynamic, and ever-changing. In fact, we are NEVER the same as we were in the past. Those changes show up in our body language, but that doesnt mean we should abandon control.

If so, we wouldnt bother with school, riding a bike, and everyone would still be a virgin. After all, we were all virgins once, werent we?

Look, theres a difference between being UNAWARE of something, and being INDIFFERENT. Unaware just means we dont know what were doing with ourselves. Ignorance may be bliss, but its not helpful.

Indifference is when you know whats going on, but you choose to ignore it. WRONG! Wheres that hand!

You cant be passive all your life and expect things to come to you. The world doesnt work that way (my apologies to all silver-spooners Ive offended with this blanket statement that merely applies to 100% of all living things, rounded to the closest .00000001).

You need to be ACTIVE. You need to TAKE CHARGE of your life, and that means taking an ACTIVE role in the changes that happen to you.

Theyre coming either way. Personally, Id rather have a vote.

So no whining about the walk youve developed and how that represents YOU as you are now. If that walk doesnt work, kill it. Time to get a new one.

And theres a bonus beyond the initial differences that changing your body language communicates to the outside world.

It also can change your inner one.

Seriously, this works. The Japanese have long held the belief that a cluttered home leads to a cluttered mind, and a clean one, a clear one. The outer world touches our inner one, and when you change the way you move, you also change the way you think.

Dont believe me? Try it. Pick a wall and stand up straight against it. Your feet, butt, shoulders, and head should all touch the wall, exerting about the same amount of pressure (no smooshing). Now walk away from the wall, but hold the pose for 5 minutes.

How do you feel? Right, like someone stuck a pole up your ass. Just what we were going for.

Its going to feel weird for awhile, because its different and new. Keep going, though, and eventually it wont feel weird. In fact, itll start to feel GOOD. Youll find yourself with this new CONFIDENCE that wasnt there before and doesnt seem to have much of an explanation.

Except that you are standing like you are confident. Cause and affect get blurred, and you wind up FEELING a certain way just because you are ACTING that way.

Either way, you look better standing straight, and you project confidence to all comers. Women find you more attractive, even if they arent self-aware enough to know why. Co-workers and those around you often might comment that you seem DIFFERENT.

Congratulations young Jedi, youre on your way.

Standing up straight is about as basic as it comes, but non-verbal communication goes much deeper.

When you walk and lead with your head, not only are you hunching and sending out uncomfortable self-conscious shrinking vibes, but youre also telling people that you tend to THINK a lot. Maybe more than you should.

Lead with your stomach, it speaks to your appetites and emotions.

Lead with your pelvis, and it says you are sexually experienced and confident.

This might sound like a lot of new-agey crap, but try it. Walk around for awhile leading with different parts of your body, and notice the changes that happen in your head. Its real, VERY real. And theres no reason bad chairs in abandoned classrooms should have more of a say about how you feel than you do.

Those nervous tics, those fidgety hands? Lose em. Every button you finger while talking to someone “ especially an attractive woman whos trying to make a snap judgment about you “ is a negative. Every fast jerky motion says you have low self-esteem “ its like you have to get it done before some stronger guy comes along to stop you.

Its like the beta wolves trying to feed before the alpha wakes up and wants more “ complete with herky-jerky looks to check for his approach. This shit runs deep.

When you make eye-contact and drop it first. Oh god no. In our part of the animal kingdom, this is strong supplicating behavior. There are monkeys which tear the arms off other animals “ including humans “ if they dont drop gaze first.

So if you are looking at a woman and look away before she does? Youve just said shes in control, and her chances of becoming attracted to you pretty much disappear.

Thats not to say you stare from a far distance. Thats stalker behavior “ when far enough away betas get bolder “ and shell think you a freak. This is about close quarters, the moment before a conversation starts.

Crossing your arms? Stop that. Youre telling everyone to stay away, so dont be surprised when they do.

Leaning in to your target? Why not just say “I want to have sex with you. Thats exactly what youre doing, and most guys do it so early that its a major turn-off (unlike once shes primed, in which case it can start speeding things up).

Standing in her personal space (which for most people is about 18 inches to 3 feet away)? Youre triggering her to run away, which is NOT a feeling you want linked with you. Standing right on the border of her personal space? This can be golden if you do it right, creating a certain tension in her mind although she probably wont know what from. Much like really needing to piss can lead to a boner, this tension can become sexual.

Standing well outside her personal space and not directing your body at her, remaining somewhat detached? Now thats good “ shes gonna want to know why she doesnt have your attention, and might start working to get YOUR approval. Dontcha love that?

There are thousands of little cues we give off to each other, and the BEST way to learn them is to see them in action. Go out and find some guys doing well with the ladies. Watch them, see what theyre doing with their bodies, and what responses they are getting. If you think youve identified a non-verbal communication that signals confidence or sexual prowess or just general alpha-ness, go practice it. Try it out. Odds are you wont get it the first time, but dont let that discourage you. There is no better way.

The second-best way, though, is experience the subject using the material in my course Seduction Science, now available in audio CD. Everything contained in this newsletter is covered in much greater detail, as well as hundreds of other helpful hints and techniques that will correctly adjust and fine tune the nuances your body language.

Until next time.

Derek Vitalio

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