Transcend Power Struggles
Here is a good article about power struggle within relationships from Sebastian of Master the Vibe – Bobby
On Relationships by Sebastian Drake
Let’s talk relationships, my man. A lot of times, a guy finds it
funny to aggravate his girlfriend. Sometimes girls press to see
what reactions they can get out of their man. Power struggles are
all too common in relationships, but many times guys don’t even
realize they’re having them. They can start as early as right after
You want to stay away from power struggles, and here’s why – Power
struggles only happen when it’s not clear who is in charge. If a
girl engages a guy in a power struggle, it means she’s seen some
value in him but he’s also expressed that he might not be in charge
of the situation. Many guys who’ve never had women react
meaningfully to them relish this new attention, but it’s not a
great place to be.More…
When value is clear cut and who is in charge is unquestionable,
power struggles do not happen. Look at how most leaders act – they
don’t engage people in back and forth nonsense, nor do they let the
other person get under their skin. They remain simply – unbothered.
They’re usually polite, friendly, and supportive of those around
People turn into struggling for power when they’re not sure who is
in charge, and would like the situation to resolve itself. Instead
of engaging in power struggles, I recommend you rise above them.
This can be done as simply as with the “small shrug” – it’s a shrug
that starts and ends in the time it takes to see “meh”. If a girl
is trying to provoke you, or saying something inflammatory or
silly, you can simply shrug to good results.
If she persists in trying to antagonize you, remove yourself.
Remember, if you’re high value, spending time with you is a reward.
And at the same time – for whatever perverse reason, most people
like to get an emotional reaction out of another person. Yelling at
someone can often be a reward, if it shows them they matter.
So to really punish a girl trying to engage in a power struggle?
Remove yourself. Shrug once. If she persists, tell her gently with
a light smile to knock it off. If she keeps it up, excuse yourself
politely – she’ll get the message.
And remember to act confident and lead people, be strong for them
and help them be the best they can be. The more you grow and
develop into a strong, masculine leader, the less often people will
even try to engage you in power struggles.
About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences. For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.