David Shade’s Personal Power
Here is an interesting post by another guide who made a cameo in “The Game,” David Shade.
Personal Power by David Shade
What does it mean to be personally powerful? Entire books have been written on that subject. The place to start is to study the teachings of Marknosis.
But here are my comments:
Do not look outside yourself for a sense of personal power. The anticlimactic realization is that personal power comes from within.
However, as Mark says Our imagination, by definition, is limited by what we already know. Therefore, in order to expand our horizons and learn more about ourselves, we do go to others to learn what has been possible for them.
I first realized my own sense of person power after attending Mark’s Intro to Stage Hypnosis seminar. I was as much afraid of hypnosis as I was fascinated by it. But I knew that I had to learn it. I knew that I would never be happy with myself until I faced the fear and learned it. Interestingly, I found it to be very easy and lots of fun. Don’t TRY to be personally powerful. Don’t ACT personally powerful. Instead, BE personally powerful
It does not mean be macho. It does not mean be an alpha male. It is about something else entirely. It is about personal power. Not power over other people. If you had power over other people, then by definition, somebody else would have power over you. Instead, it is about the power that comes from within you. And thus it is called personally powerful.
You are honest with yourself. You are true to yourself. This precludes that you are honest with others. To deceive others would violate the rule.
You have respect for yourself. You expect to be treated with respect. This precludes that you treat others with respect. To do otherwise would violate the rule. You do not expend any energy on people who do not treat you with respect. To do so would violate the rule.
You are in control of your own state at all times. You feel good, for yourself, by yourself, because of yourself.
You are congruent with your words.
You are genuine. You are convincing. You are believable. You command respect.
You are in control without being controlling. You are confident without being arrogant. You have powerful feelings and thoughts. You are totally emotionally honest. It is a very rare combination to be powerfully confident and emotional.
You are a dominant man – one that can be in charge, commanding, and in control, and feel completely comfortable with that role. Like Mark Cunningham says Be comfortable with power. This is very different from being demandingcontrolling.
Mark tells us to Be tough. People don’t expect you to always win, but they expect you to be tough.
You have your own identity. You are NOT defined by others. Keep your own identity.
Mark Cunningham tells us: Live the life of adventure. Adventure is theyou take. Look at everything with a sense of passion. Be willing to take risks.
You are decisive.
Never take anything for granted. Never assume.
You know what you want. If you don’t know what you want, you probably won’t get it, in fact, you’ll probably end up with something you don’t want.
You are powerful in that you evoke powerful emotions in others.
And some of the most important things I have learned from Mark:
You rely on you.
You are in control of yourself.
Everything that happens to you is your own doing.
You no longer concern yourself with what other people think of you.
You have no self doubt.
Instead of being inappropriately serious, you are playful.
You are done accommodating to the world, the world now accommodates to you.
You are exceptional. From here on out, you are no longer ordinary.
You have arrived. There is no more âI will do that, just as soon as I do (fill in the blank.) From here on out it’s Well, here I am. After all those years I have finally arrived. Now I take responsibility.’
As Mark said Now you’re playing for keeps.
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