The art of storytelling is something that few people ever really master. Those who do really have us in the palms of their hands. We all don’t have to be masters though. We just have to be good story tellers.
Story-telling is a skill that will carry you far in life. Whether it be in business, friendships, meeting women, being able to tell a good story, and captivate your audience will increase your chances of success in all of these areas.
Gambler from PUA Training gives us a short list of ways to improve our story-telling. Here goes:
Story Telling Tips by Richard La Ruina
Have you ever been around someone, or even seen someone on TV who can hold your attention completely and draw you in? Would you like to have these same skills and apply them to your interactions with women, people in general, and even for public speaking? Here's what you do:
1. No "errrs, ummms, ands..."
Remove these things from your speech, ummm, because, errr, they are redundant and... make people lose interest. Analyse your speech and you will either errr, ummm, or use the elongated "and" to fill space between thoughts. What do you need to do instead?...
2. Use Pauses
A pause draws people in, it is a tool of politicians and skilled public speakers. By pausing ... at key points ... people start to ... hang on your every ... word. Try it out, coupled with the above, you are already better than 99% of people.
3. Be Emotive When Speaking
Or at least seem to be doing so. Speak with passion. If you do not seem enthusiastic or passionate about something, it doesn't matter how interesting the thing is that you are talking about, people will lose interest. If you do this right, women will get caught up in your story and start to feel emotions too. Tony Robbins is an excellent example of someone who seems to always speak with passion and emotion.
4. Eye Contact
Make eye contact with the woman or with each member of the group. Never look down, and don't look away. When you make eye contact with someone, they pay more attention. If you are looking away, their attention can wonder and they will lose interest. With a group, pay attention to each member of the group so that you keep them all interested.
Use of gestures is something that is most important with larger groups. Movement catches the eye's attention more than anything else, so if the group is too big to hold eye contact with, use of gestures will help to keep them focused on you.
6. Facial Animation
Being expressive in your face draws people in. Try to hold a poker face when speaking about something really fun and see the negative effect. Emotion expressed generates an emotional response in the woman.
A sure-fire way to hold attention is to vary the voice tone. This takes practice, and shouldn't be taken too far, but a bit of voice tone variation adds a lot. Try reading the most interesting thing in the world in a monotone and you'll see what I mean.
If you follow all these tips, you will be better socially, more successful with women and could be a great public speaker or salesman!
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