Make Up My Mind Syndrome
Â Women have something called “make up my mind syndrome” and once you realize that life becomes a lot easier. This goes for all phases of a courtship.
Girls want to be led. This gives them an out of things go wrong. It resolves them of blame. This way in their mind they can say that it wasn’t their decision.
For example; Instead of asking a girl if you can have her number, tell her to give it you. Hand her your phone and tell her to type it in. She’ll do it.
When you ask a girl out, never say “What do you feel like doing?” or “Where do you want to eat?” Instead say, “I’ll pick you up at eight and we’re going to head to the track. We’ll grab a bite there.”
Girls like a leader. Someone who takes charge.
Even when it comes to hooking up. I remember I had this female friend who I had hung out with for three or four years without hooking up with. I started to become increasingly attracted to her. I decided that I wanted to hook up with her. I knew that if I disclosed my feeling verbally it would give her a chance to make up her own mind, and thats the last thing we want. Instead on a ski trip with a bunch of friends (her included) after a night of drinking and typical flirtations I went for the kiss. She let me kiss her for a second and then turned away. A few seconds later I kissed her again. We kissed a few more times that night. The next morning after having time to think she told me she doesn’t want things to get weird and we what happened last night was a mistake. Later that night I kissed her again. She slapped me. I kissed her again. She slapped me again. (Realize that everytime I kissed her she kissed back) I woke up the next morning having decided that I’ve showed my hand and I wasn’t going to to try anything again. That morning the minute she saw me she started kissing me. We fucked the whole rest of the weekend.
I made up her mind for her. She didn’t want to take responsibility to ruining our friendship so she hesitated, but when I took the lead she eventually followed. (Don’t take this story as one of those no means yes type stories) I just am proving a point that women like a man who makes the decisions.
Do girls leave you confused as to whether or not they like you?
Let's face it. Girl's don't make it easy for you. She will often send mixed signals leaving you unable to tell if she is being friendly or flirty. If you read her signals wrong you risk rejection and embarrassment. Or worse, you blow it with a girl who wanted to kiss you.
Here is a simple and innocent move that will instantly tell you if you're in the friend zone, or if she's waiting for you to kiss her.
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About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences. For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.