PUA Scott’s “Most Memorable Pick-up Story”
The First Time it Clicked by Scott
Like many guys on this site, I came into the seduction community because of a specific problem with my game. In the past, I managed to have a few girlfriends and some sexual conquests.But a lot of these were due to plain old luck or beer balls.
What I needed was simple. I wanted to be able to walk up to ANY woman ANY time and make her attracted to me.
The problem was I had a HUGE fear of approaching women. Whenever I saw a beautiful girl, I immediately experienced that dear in headlight feeling in my stomach. Needless to say, this made it really hard to initiate conversations.
I knew if I wanted any success with women, I had to become comfortable with approaching them. So one day I hopped online and did a search for great pick up lines.
What I discovered was simple.Pick up lines don`t work and openers are the best way to approach women.
So without understanding why they`re important, I memorized a whole bunch of openers and went out to conquer the female world. I drove to some club 85 miles from my house because I was afraid of running to people that I knew.
Went I got to the club, I immediately went crazy with approaching women and using my openers. Unfortunately they didn`t seem to work. [Looking back, I now realize that my body language was shitty, I didn`t project my voice and I was boring as hell]
Seriously, I tried almost every successful opener that`s out there:
The Who Lies More Opener
The Jealous Girlfriend Opener
The Did You See the Fight Outside Opener
And others I can`t seem to remember.
Nothing worked! Some girls would be polite. But even they would eventually turn their backs and cut me off from the conversation.
After trying about 20 approaches, I grew disgusted with myself and drove home. On the ride home, I cursed openers and anyone who claimed they worked.
Fast forward 3 months.
I still had the SAME problem with approaching women. So once again, I jumped online and did some research.
This time was different. I learned about body language. I studied high status and prizing. What I learned was it doesn`t matter what you say to women it`s how you say it. If you can give up on caring about the outcome and simply enjoy life, women will be naturally attracted to you.
And one night I decided to test out my theories. On a cool summer night, I met my friends at a local bar for a few drinks.
I walked in with high energy, had a big ole smile on my face and greeted my buddies. [I just learned that women are attracted to guys who have fun]. So I told my friends a funny story about my day and made sarcastic responses about the people around us. Fortunately this worked and we were all having a good time for about half an hour.
After loosening up, I looked around for somebody to approach. And then I saw her sitting by the bar. Petite, cute and RED hair [God I love redheads]. The funny thing was she was looking right at me and was sending one of those IOI I just heard about.
I knew I had to take my chance right then. If I didn`t approach her, then I would kick myself on the drive home.
The problem was my mind was a complete blank. I couldn`t of a Damn thing to say. Not one opener. Nothing witty, sarcastic OR cocky-funny! Just a feeling of complete paralysis.
Only one thing came to my head:
The outcome doesn`t matter just talk to her
So that`s what I did. I walked up to her [With what I hoped was good body language] and said:
ME: What`s up with you? [That`s all I could think of at the time]
HER: What do you mean?
ME: [Jackass think of something witty to say] Looks like your friends ditched you. What do you have a disease or something? [Yeah I actually said that]
HER: [Actually laughing] No [Hee hee], my friend is talking to some guy and seems to have disappeared.
ME: [SCORE!!!] Well, I guess it`s time to make a new friend. I`m Scott [Think I read that somewhere]
The rest went incredibly well. Veronica was renting a house with some friends during the summer and was a teacher during the school year. I busted on her name and asked if she knew that Elvis Costello song. Overall, the conversation wasn`t perfect. But I at least had the courage to start talking to her.
We did kiss that night and I got her number. We went on a few dates, but it really didn`t pan out.
Now, I`ll be the first to say this was NOT a good approach. In fact, I can now think of a DOZEN mistakes I made.
The point is simple. In order to overcome my anxiety and fear, I had to let go of any general desire for this girl. [Thank you Tao of Steve!] Instead of using a fancy opener, I just relaxed and enjoyed the moment.
Currently, I`m a big fan of openers. But before you use them, it`s important to understand why they`re used. They`re designed to simply get a girl to talk to you.
So it really doesn`t matter what words you use. As long as you say it with confidence and cocksure grin, most women will drawn to you.
It`s been almost two years since I did this approach. During this time, I`ve fine tuned my techniques. Also I`ve read and tested almost every technique I`ve come across.
Some worked well. While others were complete disasters.
But the best lesson I ever learned about approaching women was the power of simply not caring and just having a conversation. If she doesn`t like you, then move and find somebody who does. Eventually your successes will heavily outweigh your failures.
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About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences. For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.