6 Gestures for Expressing Non Verbal Communication


As you all know 2nd place in this months commenter contest is Derek Vitalio’s classic audio program Non Verbal Sexual Cuing. Derek’s program goes into great lengths to teach the fundamental of sending under cover sexual signals that will let a girl know “that you’re money and you want to party.”

22407467.jpgI got this email from Chase Amante of The Approach, and it is a short little piece of different forms of non verbal communication. Chase gives six examples of non verbal communication you can implement immediately. These examples are more geared toward expressing your playful confident side rather than your sexual side, but nonetheless they are still good and worth implementing.

6 Non Verbal Gestures for Immediate Use by Chase Amante

1. Eyebrow shrug. Not everyone can do this, but most folks can. Raising both eyebrows can be used to show a number of different moods and expressions. An eyebrow shrug can signify that a person is surprised, or is expecting a response – it can almost be used as a dare or challenge. A quick, subtle shrug of the eyebrows (sometimes held longer) can also be used to express interest. It is often done subconsciously by both men and women – you can shrug your eyebrows at her to let her know you’re interested, or make a note when she shrugs hers at you, because she’s interested too.

2. Wink (one eye). A favorite of television rakes and seducers, the wink is nonetheless a fantastic means of communication. It’s sufficiently mysterious that it gets girls wondering, and shows a strong degree of social confidence and awareness on your part. The wink is a great way to respond to a woman when she asks you a question you don’t feel like answering if she’s giving you a hard time…

3. Slow, hard blink (two eyes). This is an easy and effective way of communicating disbelief, as in, “Did you actually just say
that?” Two versions: in one, you are looking away and to the right when you open your eyes. This is the version that puts more social pressure on the girl (to qualify herself or retract a remark). In the other, you are looking straight at the girl when you open your eyes – this is the more playful (still with some social pressure) version.

4. Squint. The squint is a way of saying that you are thinking about something, or alternatively that you doubt the truth or
accuracy of something that is being said. If you look at a woman and squint, it can seem like you are sizing her up and trying to decide if you like her a lot. You will see that many men who are good with women squint while they are talking to them. It helps to place them in the position of being the slightly skeptical selector.

5. Ultra-skpetical look. This is when you look at a woman like she just said the most retarded thing you’ve ever heard. Basically, you pull your lips into a half-smile (with one side of your mouth), while kind-of laughing/huffing in a “I can’t believe she said that” way, and simultaneously shrugging your eyebrows. You hold this look and stare at her until she gives into the social pressure.

6. Shoulder shrug. A very simple, nonchalant way of shrugging off a question you don’t especially want to answer or responding to a silly remark. Be sure to shrug your shoulders only a little bit; dramatic shoulder shrugging is on the tryhard side.

Can you guys think of any others to add to this list?

About Bobby Rio

I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences.  For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.

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  1. FredEx

    January 10, 2008 at 6:43 pm

    i really like the squint and the hard two eyes blink.. the blink is something i think can Really subcommunicate what you want it to, without having to use any words with it. plus it really communicates your Prizeability and standards without having to verbally express it.

  2. chris

    January 10, 2008 at 6:46 pm

    the powers of those facial expressions are priceless! One of my favoritte ways of opening… When I’m on my way towards the bathroom, bar, friends, whatever, I’ll give girls looks as I’m making my path, they’ll make a look back and I’ll go about my business. later on I’m garanteed to talk to a few of them and its almost like we’ve already had a conversation! works wonders…

  3. Teddy Bear

    January 10, 2008 at 9:24 pm

    I use the wink a lot!!

    what about the lipbite. that shows the sexual desire a lot. when a girl is really into u she will do this and I swear it sets something off in us, so I’m sure it does for them too. I usually use this after building rapport with em for awhile. then theres the licking of the bottom lip. lol I could come up with more but I gotta get back to work

  4. Chase

    January 10, 2008 at 9:39 pm

    God bless ‘The Approach’.

    I havn’t kept up with Seb Drake so I don’t know if he’s still with ‘the approach’ or ‘master the vibe’ or wtf.

    As far as PU goes…’The Approach’ took my game farther than you could imagine.


  5. Ha$h

    January 12, 2008 at 2:20 am

    Solid direct eye contact is a big tool of mine, i look deep into their eyes and almost speak telepathically with them. It’s huge to hold, especially across a room or walking into one for the first time, normally when a pretty girl looks at a guy they instantly look away, u need to look and hold it, acknowledging the look.


  6. Kevin

    January 13, 2008 at 11:24 am

    Lool Teddy bear! I love the lip bite! everytime a girl does that, i got so turned on for some reason XD.

    But the squint and the ultra-skeptical look being used effectively..can get you a playful hit.
    I done it the other day, when she asked a stupid question.

    This is a very useful post, subcommunication is very important, because its mainly directed between the two of you.

    I agree with Ha$h with the solid-eye contact, i tend to aompany it with playful smile.


  7. Substance

    January 14, 2008 at 7:16 am

    Some good examples of such gestures (and others) can be seen by Bill Murray in movies such as Ghostbusters and Scrooged. Also, one gesture I use is the ‘whatever’ look. Quick nose wrinkle and bob head to one side shows nonchalance.

  8. Seraf24

    February 15, 2008 at 3:41 am


    do you have advice for gaming girls that are playing “hard to get?” I think my “project” may be doing that.


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