Being Comfortable Talking Dirty
Talking dirty to girls is something that I have struggled with for a long time. It is only now that I feel “pretty” comfortable doing it, still with some hesitancy. I am sure that this comes to some men pretty easily, but I just didn’t to me.
There I was, enjoying some great sex when I hear “Tell me how you like fu*king my pus*y”
Now don’t get me wrong, I did like fu*king her pus*sy, yet I didn’t feel compelled to actually say it to her? Then when I would say it, I felt like I didn’t use a strong enough tone of voice and sounded weird. With all this going on I actually start to loose wood…Great!
I couldn’t really understand why I was having this problem. I was confident in all other areas of my game, yet when it came to this I was on new ground. What I realized is that most of the problem had to do with me dating a different breed of woman. A woman who may not be so confident in life, but has ultimate confidence in the bedroom. Girls with more sexual experience than me in some cases…
These women want someone to take control, hair pulling seems to be as common a missionary these days. Spanking makes me think of booty’s, not babies and giving girls mild titty twister’s (purple nurple) is coming back.
The sexual culture is changing and you may be missing it. Women like this don’t just tell you to pull their hair and spank them, you have to know!
So how do you know?
You have to build rapport and maintain kino escalation to test the waters. ( build comfort and get her comfortable with you touching her and vice versa) Then move this forward veeeeerrrrrrryyy slowly.
Maybe start while you are talking and touch her arm, and leave it there for like 5-10 seconds. NEVER GROPE! Keep it real calm and relaxed.
Later on lean in to talk to her and use touching her leg as an effect in something you are saying. Example: Your telling some story about something and you say. “Then he grabs me and …..” When you say grabs me, grab her leg for a sec, at most until you finish your sentence, then pull away and continue with your story.
Later on (if you are still being your cool guy self and are not being creepy) you need to start looking for opportunities make a comment about her anatomy, I would go for the ass, one because it is the least confrontational and two, because I love ass! With confidence say something like, “You have a really nice looking ass, would you mind if I gave it a little smack?” MAKE SURE YOU HAVE GREAT KINO AND RAPPORT BEFORE ATTEMPTING A BOLD APPROACH LIKE THIS, IT WORKS FOR ME..THAT’S ALL i CAN SAY.
Most girls just laugh, some let me smack it on the spot and others make me work for it a little. Either way, it’s a great SOI (statement of intent) that will for sure keep you out of the friend zone.
If it does work, you may have just found you next sex tigress!
About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences. For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.