Is Mystery Bad for the Community?
When the Vh1’s The Pick Up Artist season 1 first aired last year, most people in the community’s biggest fear was their tactics being exposed to the female population… thus making them less effective.
I would strongly advise against aggressive peacocking, as it is probably the one area that has garnered the most media attention. But with the exception of a few openers, blatant time constraints, and misplaced negs… I think everyone has been able to continue to game in their same exact manner. I don’t believe that there are hoards of girls calling guys out for using material from the community.
Then why is Mystery bad for the community?
If Mystery hasn’t really exposed too much material than why am I suggesting he is bad for the community? My main reason for bringing this up is because of the fact that Mystery has become somewhat of a parody of himself. Unfortunately, there are many that view him as a walking, talking, living breathing, punch line of a joke.
I don’t mean to disrespect Mystery- the guy is a genius- but sadly he is being portrayed to the world as a joke. Just about anyone “outside of the community” that speaks of him does so in a condescending way. Girls consistently laugh at him, and talk about what a weird creep he is.
While I know this means little to Mystery-as I’m sure he could pull these very same girls… I think there might be ramifications that extend beyond him as an individual.
This negatively affects the community in two ways:
1. Guys that desperately need the help of coaches like Mystery will more than likely shy away from pursuing any interest in learning more about “the art of pickup.” Think about it, if the chief mainstream spokesman for this stuff is being constantly ridiculed and laughed at by women… who will want to join that club?
2. Guys may develop an unconscious stigma they feel towards themselves for being involved in the community. Before Mystery went mainstream very few people were talking about “how to pickup girls.” But since the show, it seems there are more and more conversations about “how lame it is that guys need to study this stuff.” While we all know it is not lame, and in fact is life changing, it could negatively alter the self esteem of many guys who consistently hear this kind of talk.
Am I over analyzing this?
I am really just wondering all of your thoughts on this.
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