Flirting Moves That Keep You Out of The Friend Zone
THE FLIRTING MOVES THAT GET YOU OUT OF THE â€œLOWLY FRIENDâ€ CATEGORY AND INTO THE â€œPOTENTIAL LOVERâ€ CATEGORY
Flirting moves are not hard to do: its not physically difficult to wink, or to look into a womanâ€™s eyes. But flirting moves can be challenging if you are not used to doing them.
The successful â€œlevel 4â€ oœlevel 5â€ seducer shows his romantic interest right away through his flirting. You must learn to do this, too, or women will see you as a friend.
These are just the basic moves. Conversational flirtingwhich is another realm of flirting entirelyâ€”is covered in the tape series, The Mastery Program.
1) LOOK INTO HER EYES TOO LONG
This is simply holding eye contact a little bit longer than you normally would. While you are conversing with her, you want to be sure to have eye contact at least some of the time. At least once itâ€™s a good idea to hold the eye contact a little â€œtoo long,â€ just a fraction too long, so thereâ€™s a brief, more intimate moment between you.
2) MAKE DECISIONS EASILY
Its important to make sure that you make decisions easily. Remember your outcome: romantic feelings, and moving the seduction along. This means that making a decision quickly is more important than choosing the perfect type of coffee, or taking the time to really think about whether you want cherry Danish or a plain one. By making decisions quickly, you show her that you are a decisive man who she wont have to take care of.
3) WINK AT HER
You can wink at someone from across the room, or wink at someone during a conversation. If she says something funny, or someone else does something silly, you can give a wink as a way of sharing a little moment for just the two of you, as if the two of you are in on some private joke no one else is aware of.
4) CHECK OUT HER BODY
Checking out her body must be done properly. The goal is for your new friend to feel complimented that you noticed her body, not objectified like some piece of meat. You do this by making eye contact, then quickly, in less than a second, passing your eyes down and then up over her body, then back to looking in the eyes. It should happen quickly, and you should be unashamed of taking a glance. Just dont do it too often”two times during a coffee date, for instance, is plenty.
5) KEEP YOUR BODY POWERFUL
Women want to be with men who are engaged in their lives. Youll appear even more engaged if you sit, stand and move like you are both fascinated and fascinating. As a bonus, moving as if you are totally engaged with and turned on by life will perk you up and give you more energy for the interaction.
6) COMPLIMENT HER
You want to cultivate complimenting her as a potential lover, not as a tepid friend. Lets talk briefly about the difference: A man who is destined to be a womans friend compliments her by saying something like, â€œyou have a very nice briefcase. The compliment doesnt show that he is interested in her romantically, or that he notices anything romantic about her. Put another way, its a compliment another woman might give to her. If you give a woman a compliment that another woman might give her, you might as well be another woman, striking up a casual
You want to make it clear that you are a man who is noticing her as a woman, rather than an amorphous blob of undefined protoplasm who might as well be another woman talking to her. A man who is committed to being seen as a potential lover gives compliments that show that he notices her as a woman. Rather than saying, You have a nice briefcase hell say something like â€œYou have beautiful eyes, or â€œYour smile is so beautiful, it lights up the room. At first it may be uncomfortable for you to compliment her, that is okay”keep going, keep taking the risk, and up the passion in your compliments. Yes, you are risking rejection, but thats good! Remember the rejection process, and remember to celebrate your victories!
7) WHISPER TO HER/LEAN INTO HER SPACE
Whispering to her doesnt mean you have to get all the way up to her ear it may be too early in your interaction with her to get that close. But you can lean into her space, and lower the volume of your voice, to share something with her
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About Ron Louis Ron Louis, 33, is author of Sexpectations: Women Talk Candidly About Sex and Dating, and co-author of â€ How to Succeed with Women,â€ â€œHow to Succeed with Men,â€ â€œThe Sex Loverâ€™s Book of Lists,â€ and the â€œMastery Programâ€ tape series. He is also a dating coach. From ages 18-20 he toured the U.S. as a guitarist in a rock-and-roll band, opening for the Henry Rollins Band, and others. His website is How to Succeed With Women