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Flirting Moves That Keep You Out of The Friend Zone



42-16177309Flirting moves are not hard to do: its not physically difficult to wink, or to look into a woman’s eyes. But flirting moves can be challenging if you are not used to doing them.

The successful “level 4” oœlevel 5” seducer shows his romantic interest right away through his flirting. You must learn to do this, too, or women will see you as a friend.

These are just the basic moves. Conversational flirtingwhich is another realm of flirting entirely—is covered in the tape series, The Mastery Program


This is simply holding eye contact a little bit longer than you normally would. While you are conversing with her, you want to be sure to have eye contact at least some of the time. At least once it’s a good idea to hold the eye contact a little “too long,” just a fraction too long, so there’s a brief, more intimate moment between you.


Its important to make sure that you make decisions easily. Remember your outcome: romantic feelings, and moving the seduction along. This means that making a decision quickly is more important than choosing the perfect type of coffee, or taking the time to really think about whether you want cherry Danish or a plain one. By making decisions quickly, you show her that you are a decisive man who she wont have to take care of.


You can wink at someone from across the room, or wink at someone during a conversation. If she says something funny, or someone else does something silly, you can give a wink as a way of sharing a little moment for just the two of you, as if the two of you are in on some private joke no one else is aware of.


42-16396996Checking out her body must be done properly. The goal is for your new friend to feel complimented that you noticed her body, not objectified like some piece of meat. You do this by making eye contact, then quickly, in less than a second, passing your eyes down and then up over her body, then back to looking in the eyes. It should happen quickly, and you should be unashamed of taking a glance. Just dont do it too often”two times during a coffee date, for instance, is plenty.


Women want to be with men who are engaged in their lives. Youll appear even more engaged if you sit, stand and move like you are both fascinated and fascinating. As a bonus, moving as if you are totally engaged with and turned on by life will perk you up and give you more energy for the interaction.


You want to cultivate complimenting her as a potential lover, not as a tepid friend. Lets talk briefly about the difference: A man who is destined to be a womans friend compliments her by saying something like, “you have a very nice briefcase. The compliment doesnt show that he is interested in her romantically, or that he notices anything romantic about her. Put another way, its a compliment another woman might give to her. If you give a woman a compliment that another woman might give her, you might as well be another woman, striking up a casual

You want to make it clear that you are a man who is noticing her as a woman, rather than an amorphous blobRob and Anna of undefined protoplasm who might as well be another woman talking to her. A man who is committed to being seen as a potential lover gives compliments that show that he notices her as a woman. Rather than saying, You have a nice briefcase hell say something like “You have beautiful eyes, or “Your smile is so beautiful, it lights up the room. At first it may be uncomfortable for you to compliment her, that is okay”keep going, keep taking the risk, and up the passion in your compliments. Yes, you are risking rejection, but thats good! Remember the rejection process, and remember to celebrate your victories!


Whispering to her doesnt mean you have to get all the way up to her ear it may be too early in your interaction with her to get that close. But you can lean into her space, and lower the volume of your voice, to share something with her

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About Ron Louis

Ron Louis, 33, is author of Sexpectations: Women Talk Candidly About Sex and Dating, and co-author of ” How to Succeed with Women,” “How to Succeed with Men,” “The Sex Lover’s Book of Lists,” and the “Mastery Program” tape series. He is also a dating coach. From ages 18-20 he toured the U.S. as a guitarist in a rock-and-roll band, opening for the Henry Rollins Band, and others. His website is How to Succeed With Women

Simple Trick Tells You if a Girl Wants You to Kiss Her

Do girls leave you confused as to whether or not they like you?

Let's face it.  Girl's don't make it easy for you.  She will often send mixed signals leaving you unable to tell if she is being friendly or flirty.  If you read her signals wrong you risk rejection and embarrassment. Or worse, you blow it with a girl who wanted to kiss you.

Here is a simple and innocent move that will instantly tell you if you're in the friend zone, or if she's waiting for you to kiss her.


  1. lilez0521

    March 10, 2009 at 2:39 am

    Winking at right moment can score you some big points…

  2. Payroll Service Tampa

    March 10, 2009 at 3:23 am

    Very true, i found your description very friendly described, helps youngster to understand batter.

  3. Frank

    December 29, 2009 at 7:52 pm

    Knowing how to use brief eye-contact at the right moment can work wonders with a girl. The less you say and do when you’re simply looking at her eyes for a second, while thinking of something warm and pleasant – the more she will be attracted to you.

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