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Go Commando, Get Girls


Valentines Sweet HeartCivilians assume getting girls is about having “things.” Looks, money, cars, and the old sock-in-the-crotch are the prerequisites guys need before they can get mega-babes. That’s because to a civilian, he’s not equipped to get the super hot girl unless he meets society’s standards of a “hot guy.” Movies, television, and advertising have hammered the idea into the civilian man’s mind that until he possesses the trappings of (what’s considered) “male hotness,” he should just settle for a girl of “so so” caliber.

Later this little movement called “the seduction community” came along and proclaimed the good news for the civilians. Men no longer had to wait for looks, money, cars, or even socks-in-the-crotch before they getting their mega-babe dream girl. Instead, guys just have to fill some new prerequisites like social proof, getting into “state,” and pea-cocking. Community drones gleefully wrote their retarded analogies to “The Matrix,” claiming to have swallowed the “red pill.” An army of Neo-like community clowns descended upon nightclubs worldwide, scoffing at those wacky “civilians” and their “limiting beliefs.”

Truth is the community’s idea of the “red pill” is the same bullshit with a different stink. Essentially civilians and community guys agree on one thing: the modern man is simply not enough. If he wants to live up to the fabled standards of mega-babes, he needs to look outside himself for props. It matters little if that prop is a Corvette, a chiseled physique, a stack of cash, a furry hat, a girl on each arm, a wing-man’s accomplishment introduction, or the laundry list of other “necessities” a man supposedly needs before he can “congruently” approach the mega-babes.

What no one seems to realize is congruence comes from a single source: you. Is that condescendingly simplified? Yes. But in a way, it must be. Attraction and dating is simply a series of self-fulfilling prophesies. A guy’s limiting beliefs become a guy’s limiting realities. Period. For all I’m concerned, that’s the only rule of “the game” where there is no exception.

Clown Talk (c.1905)After that, dudes need to throw out every other “rule” they have in their head. A few suggestions are forgetting how long you need to wait before having sex, how many seconds have to approach, how many “warm ups” you need to do before hitting “state,” how much social proof you are required to generate, or how ridiculous your attire needs to be to before you can get girls.

When you strip away the props, the rules, and the beliefs what’s left is what I call “going commando.” A double entendre indeed, going commando is a lot like not wearing underwear. But it’s more than that. It’s a lot like not wearing anything other than a cocky grin and a shameless attitude. Going commando is about not relying on anything other than YOU to make shit happen.

But “going commando” also means going ruthless. No excuses. You see a girl you’re attracted to, you get her. You don’t wait until her orbiter guys friends go to the bathroom. You don’t wait until you have another drink. You don’t even wait until your wingman is ready to “occupy the obstacles.” Would Rambo crouch in the bushes of a P.O.W. camp, waiting to sneak his way inside when the scrubby guards go on a lunch break? Or would that motherfucker blow through the front door with an exploding bow-in-arrow and stop at nothing until the objectives of his mission are complete? Yeah. That’s what I thought. Stop jeopardizing your mission with civilian nonsense. Step up and take what’s yours. No excuses. No props. No limiting beliefs. It’s just you and a commando attitude!

About Rob J.

Rob J. is a writer and dating instructor in New York City. Themes that resonate in both his teaching and writing are masculinity, genuineness, rational self-interest, and general awesomeness.

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  1. Firepower

    August 25, 2009 at 6:53 pm

    Finally, a good ‘modern’ PUA article. I agree with everything but the “bow-in-arrow” biz

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  3. Nikolai

    August 28, 2009 at 10:47 pm

    lol i love the rambo analogy at the end…

    but if you`re not rambo, you`re probably gonna end up getting shot down before even getting near the front gate (just like in the club!)

  4. Jerry

    August 29, 2009 at 2:36 am

    Gay Gay Gay

  5. Sam

    September 5, 2009 at 12:49 pm

    This guy writes some of the most interesting articles. Interesting in that where did he come up with these ideas and how could Bobby and Mike let him consistently write for them? I laugh at this stuff its so bizarre.

  6. Brother Hugh

    October 9, 2009 at 12:10 pm

    Did Brother Roy write that “Gay Gay Gay” comment? If that’s you, Roy, tell the provost to send me some cute boys in Florida. 😛

  7. The Captain

    July 1, 2010 at 2:25 pm

    How desperate the PUA community is…. pathetic

    mothafuckas thing that nowadays you have to be some sort of court jester to get some female attention..

    What the fuck is the point of hoe chasin if the female aint even lookin at cha?? you have to look for eye contact first..

    look at it this way; if some fat ugly bitch comes up to you in a bar and starts spitting some scripted shit, how is that gonna make you feel?? fuckin wierded out right? well that what a women things when you run up in her face yellin some canned shit..


  8. Rodney

    December 18, 2011 at 4:48 pm

    very true. Very useful info…thanks…

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